The song lyrics were written by the band Van Halen, as they were asked to write a song for the 1979 movie "Over the Edge" starring Matt Dillon. The movie (and the lyrics, although more obliquely) are about bored, rebellious youth with nothing better to do than get into trouble. If you see the movie, these lyrics will make more sense. It's a great movie if you grew up in the 70s/80s you'll definitely remember some of these characters from your own life. Fun fact, after writing the song, Van Halen decided not to let the movie use it.
(You guys ready?)
Alone, listless
Breakfast table in an otherwise empty room
Young girl, violence
Center of her own attention
The mother reads aloud, child tries to understand it
Tries to make her proud
The shades go down, it's in her head
Painted room, can't deny there's something wrong
Don't call me daughter, not fit to
The picture kept will remind me
Don't call me daughter, not fit to
The picture kept will remind me
Don't call me
She holds the hand that holds her down
She will rise above, ooh, ooh
Don't call me daughter, not fit to
The picture kept will remind me
Don't call me daughter, not fit to
The picture kept will remind me
Don't call me daughter, not fit to
The picture kept will remind me
Don't call me daughter, not fit to
The picture kept will remind me
Don't call me
The shades go down
The shades go down
The shades go, go
Go
Alone, listless
Breakfast table in an otherwise empty room
Young girl, violence
Center of her own attention
The mother reads aloud, child tries to understand it
Tries to make her proud
The shades go down, it's in her head
Painted room, can't deny there's something wrong
Don't call me daughter, not fit to
The picture kept will remind me
Don't call me daughter, not fit to
The picture kept will remind me
Don't call me
She holds the hand that holds her down
She will rise above, ooh, ooh
Don't call me daughter, not fit to
The picture kept will remind me
Don't call me daughter, not fit to
The picture kept will remind me
Don't call me daughter, not fit to
The picture kept will remind me
Don't call me daughter, not fit to
The picture kept will remind me
Don't call me
The shades go down
The shades go down
The shades go, go
Go
Lyrics submitted by kevin, edited by noneyour, Supertramp09, sinrise, Statistica
Daughter Lyrics as written by Eddie Vedder David Abbruzzese
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This song is about dyslexia. In the early 90's this disorder wasnt well known and DAUGHTER is addressing the issue. "Mother reads aloud, child tries to understand, tries to make her proud." Her mother just blames her daughter's problems on a lack of will when instead it is something she cant help. She tries to please her mother but she cant and she doesnt feel fit to be called her daughter.
"The child in that song obviously has a learning difficulty. And it's only in the last few years that they've actually been able to diagnose these learning disabilities that before were looked at as misbehaviour, as just outright fucking rebelliousness. But no one knew what it was. And these kids, because they seemed unable or reluctant to learn, they'd end up getting the shit beaten outta them. The song ends, you know, with this idea of the shades going down–so that the neighbours can't see what happens next. What hurts about shit like that is that it ends up defining peoples' lives. They have to live with that abuse for the rest of their lives. Good, creative people are just fucking destroyed"-Eddie Vedder
It is a song about child abuse and the different ways people hide from it. The mother denying that her child is being abused, the girl so messed up she cant think straight or learn, or fit in. But it is also about triumph. A similar sentiment as that in "Given to Fly". The daughter will rise above the horror being perperated on her by her father (abuser) and mother (pretending it isnt happening).
Just because a man and woman are fertile and fuck, doesnt make them parents.
I agree.... think your interpretation is correct.
Well, to me this has always been the story of an adopted daughter and her "mother". I can totally relate because I am that adopted daughter.
Alone....listless
(I always was and I always heard it as restless, not listless, which I always was restless)
Breakfast table in an otherwise empty room Young girl, violins, center of her own attention
(Because I was different than the other kids and had a learning disability, I had the faulty label of autistic put on me. Of course my mother always blamed that on my genes because they didn't come from her)
Mother reads aloud child tries to understand her tries to make her proud
(I was always trying to get her to love and accept me even though I wasn't her dream child and I wasn't the child she would have had with my father. I was always trying to be who she wanted me to be, not who I really was which was a product of my genetics)
The shades go down it’s in her head Painted room, can’t deny, somethin’s wrong
(The learning disability they said I always had when it was really that I learned differently than other kids, but there must be something "wrong" with me ya know. It was those birthmother genes.)
Don’t call me daughter, not fair to The picture kept will remind me, Don’t call me daugher, not fit to The picture kept will remind me
(I ain't your daughter and the one and only picture I had of my real mother will always remind me of that and give me comfort that maybe she would accept me as I was. She wasn't fit to call me her daughter.)
Don’t call me…. She holds that hand that holds her down She will rise above
(She always did hold me down because I wasn't her perfect child that the adoption agency promised she would get)
btw I found my real mother and she can call me daughter anytime she wants to. She's fit to.
@Adoptee I am glad you found her <3
@Adoptee I so agree with you. I have an adopted cousin and this song so reminded me of her. My Aunt was not a great mother and tried to make her daughter the young child she wanted (adopted her at 10) and did not have the patience and understanding for my cousin. Glad you found your real mother. My cousin remembered and knew her real mother who was an awful person.
the meaning is that its a story of a girl who's abused by her mother, but the abuse has gotten so bad that the girl now actually beleives she is really to blame
well isnt the mom abusive cause the girl is dyslexic?
This is about child abuse... some parents will keep it going as long as they can. I think this is about emotional abuse because of the violin reference. This is the worst type because it's hard to prove. Some parents will go to great lengths to keep this hidden. The really sick ones will even have their kids diagnosed with a mental illness they don't have when a therapist diagnoses their daughter with another disorder caused by severe child abuse. Unfortunately, this girl was a lot smarter then they were and knew how to play their bullshit games better then them? Maybe. Perhaps the painted room part is talking about how their parents locked her away in a room for 7 months with no outside contact while they drugged her to the point where she had to be immediately taken off all the drugs because they were literally killing her... however, the parents deny it all the way... and kept pushing the pills. Maybe this girl got lucky and was able to stand on her own two feet and escape at the end. 7 months gives a person a lot of time to plan things.
Wow. I'm guessing this letter is less about the song and more about your own childhood. Hope you are doing ok now.
HUH? 7 MONTHS? WHAT R U TALKING ABOUT? DID I MISS SOME LYRIC IN THE SONG THAT REFERS TO 7 MONTHS?<br />
HUH? 7 MONTHS? WHAT R U TALKING ABOUT? DID I MISS SOME LYRIC IN THE SONG THAT REFERS TO 7 MONTHS? R U TALKING ABOUT UR LIFE? AND I'M NOT BEING MEAN OR A SMART ASS, I'M TRULY CONFUSED BY UR COMMENT!<br />
@perhapspsychology huh? Violins? There is no reference to "violins" in this song whatsoever. There is, however, a reference to "violence," which might sound like "violins." Is this the lyric to which you are referring? If so, I'm curious how your perspective of the song changes now since the thesis of your post relied on your belief that the lyrics mentioned "violins" to support your "emotional" abuse interpretation.
@perhapspsychology OK. I take. It back. While this site clearly has the lyric specified as "violence" the official insert/booklet that was shipped with the CD shows the lyric as "violins (ence)." So it looks like Eddie wrote this lyric with a dual interpretation and meaning. That being said, I'm still curious if this changes your interpretation?
Eddie Vedder said about the song "Daughter":
"The child in that song obviously has a learning difficulty. And it's only in the last few years that they've actually been able to diagnose these learning disabilities that before were looked at as misbehavior, as just outright rebelliousness. But no one knew what it was. And these kids, because they seemed unable or reluctant to learn, they'd end up getting the shit beaten outta them. The song ends, you know, with this idea of the shades going down—so that the neighbors can't see what happens next. What hurts about shit like that is that it ends up defining people's lives. They have to live with that abuse for the rest of their lives. Good, creative people are just fucking destroyed."[5]
@Deviline do you have a source for this?
First of all, its not "not fair to" its "not fit to" and it is violins and not violence
@ChrissyTina actually I just researched this, and it's both. The booklet that shipped with the CD shows a dual meaning/lyric here, as Eddie often does in songs. The booklet shows the lyric as "violins (ence)." See here for an image of thr booklet page was this appears:<br /> <br /> imgur.com/gallery/meB4PTw
I always thought it was about child abuse.
Ok, I don't know where wikipedia got its quotation entry from Mr. Vedder, but let me tell you he would be the first to say the song is left up to YOU to interpret. Hence, no video's for Pearl Jam. Now, I never have looked at the dyslexia angle before, but I will say I am open to it and can see it in the song. However, I don't think the entire song is about dyslexia. I believe the song is about child abuse. Plain and simple. And Rearviewmiror is about running away or getting away from it.