This song can mean a lot of things for many people. I used to wonder what it meant, but now I know, because I went through it.
In the beginning of a "she" is trying to save a relationship or friendship that she had with "him".
Actually, the singer/narrator is remembering the way he reacted to her attempt to save their relationship and regretting his unwillingness to listen.
She's trying to gather what little chance she has left with him, and he pretends not to understand. He becomes angry at her accusations,
"As he begins to raise his voice,
you lower yours and grant him one last choice.
Drive until you lose the road
Or break with the ones you've followed
He will do one of two things
He will admit to everything
Or he'll say he's just not the same
And you'll begin to wonder why you came."
This means that she gave him a choice to improve or save their relationship, and he has two options. He can acknowledge what she's saying and they can work through the problem together.
The singer chose the latter, and she wondered why she even hoped she could fix it.
"Where did I go wrong?
I lost a friend somewhere along in the bitterness."
If he had chosen to talk it out with her, they would still be together. When he says,
"I would have stayed up with you all night
had I known how to save a life."
He's talking about the life of their relationship. They went from being really close/together to being barely friends or acquaintances
In this instance I was the girl.
It's painful every time he tries to talk to me now, even though it's been months.
This song somehow gives me hope that it will get better.
It will never be romantic again, but I miss the good times we had together.
This song can mean a lot of things for many people. I used to wonder what it meant, but now I know, because I went through it. In the beginning of a "she" is trying to save a relationship or friendship that she had with "him". Actually, the singer/narrator is remembering the way he reacted to her attempt to save their relationship and regretting his unwillingness to listen. She's trying to gather what little chance she has left with him, and he pretends not to understand. He becomes angry at her accusations, "As he begins to raise his voice, you lower yours and grant him one last choice. Drive until you lose the road Or break with the ones you've followed He will do one of two things He will admit to everything Or he'll say he's just not the same And you'll begin to wonder why you came." This means that she gave him a choice to improve or save their relationship, and he has two options. He can acknowledge what she's saying and they can work through the problem together. The singer chose the latter, and she wondered why she even hoped she could fix it. "Where did I go wrong? I lost a friend somewhere along in the bitterness." If he had chosen to talk it out with her, they would still be together. When he says, "I would have stayed up with you all night had I known how to save a life." He's talking about the life of their relationship. They went from being really close/together to being barely friends or acquaintances In this instance I was the girl. It's painful every time he tries to talk to me now, even though it's been months. This song somehow gives me hope that it will get better. It will never be romantic again, but I miss the good times we had together.