I have always enjoyed reading people's takes on songs, but never chimed in. This will be my first and last, but please bare with me, this post is a way for me to cleanse my soul in a way.
I've listened to this song for 30 years, always thought it was cool, very sad, but in a far off way. Didn't really listen to the lyrics much, just the song title mostly. Ian's voice so monotone, almost like he's got no feeling. Never really understood.
I am writing this at almost 4 am, on my laptop. To my left, with her back to me lays my wife, asleep but restless, and almost every night she whimpers in her sleep, and it kills me. Together for ten years, married for 3. She's my best friend, I love her very much, but the love I feel isn't the way it was, as she still loves me. We have grown apart in so many ways, to many to name. I have felt this way for a couple years, and always thought it's OK, it will change, it's just temporary. Than I met someone at work, that over several years of working together brought back feelings I used to have, those sparks only love can bring, and I remembered how it was supposed to be, and I hated myself, and I quit my job, because it's so painful to realize how something just a wall over can make you so happy, but know it will never be, and the betrayal these feelings were to my wife. My Wife knows there is something wrong, and it is scaring her to death. I have lashed out, been cold and distant, yet she still tries. And I love her for that, but...starting to hate it. We are so the same as when we met, but so different, I try to bring it up but it's always deflected, and everyday I feel more suffocated. I know what I have to do, they always say the truth will set you free, but the suffering I feel now, I do not want her to feel. So I lay here sometimes, hoping I never wake up. She will never know the darkness in my heart, and thus will never be scarred.She has did nothing wrong but love me and count on me to do the same.
The monotone in Ian's voice is the realization that what you thought was the greatest thing ever, that made you happy to be alive, has turned into something that can only be described as cancer of the soul, and it grows, and it leaves you numb, because it is always there, and never goes away, and the acceptance that comes with that, and the realization that your only options are to bring complete sorrow to the one you least want to hurt in the world, or just suck it up, which I have decided since I'm a coward, being numb is the only way to survive.
Love will tear you apart is the most beautiful, truthful and painful song I have ever heard, or felt. Just pray to God that you never truly understand it's meaning.
@theduke77 it truly hurts to fall out of love with some one you thought was the love of your life however it is eveny worse to love the love of your life and them not return their feelings
@theduke77 it truly hurts to fall out of love with some one you thought was the love of your life however it is eveny worse to love the love of your life and them not return their feelings
@theduke77 Today March 21 2002, I am reading your thoughts of 2014. Not knowing you or how your life is now. I too was in the situation of a marriage going wrong. I tried so hard to make it work but nothing mattered. I felt as I was the third person on my marriage. Today is the first time I heard the song "Love will tear us apart" by Ian. Oh, if I had only heard it earlier it would have made my choice of leaving the marriage easier. It took 27 years to take that step of freedom. I...
@theduke77 Today March 21 2002, I am reading your thoughts of 2014. Not knowing you or how your life is now. I too was in the situation of a marriage going wrong. I tried so hard to make it work but nothing mattered. I felt as I was the third person on my marriage. Today is the first time I heard the song "Love will tear us apart" by Ian. Oh, if I had only heard it earlier it would have made my choice of leaving the marriage easier. It took 27 years to take that step of freedom. I am middle aged and most men are looking for the younger ladies. I have been divorced for 13 years. It is that I have found a different enjoyment being single and doing the things I enjoy. Hopefully one day I when men start looking for a real woman of their own age I may think about trying again. Until then I will continue to listen to the song and music.
@theduke77 Today March 21 2002, I am reading your thoughts of 2014. Not knowing you or how your life is now. I too was in the situation of a marriage going wrong. I tried so hard to make it work but nothing mattered. I felt as I was the third person on my marriage. Today is the first time I heard the song "Love will tear us apart" by Ian. Oh, if I had only heard it earlier it would have made my choice of leaving the marriage easier. It took 27 years to take that step of freedom. I...
@theduke77 Today March 21 2002, I am reading your thoughts of 2014. Not knowing you or how your life is now. I too was in the situation of a marriage going wrong. I tried so hard to make it work but nothing mattered. I felt as I was the third person on my marriage. Today is the first time I heard the song "Love will tear us apart" by Ian. Oh, if I had only heard it earlier it would have made my choice of leaving the marriage easier. It took 27 years to take that step of freedom. I am middle aged and most men are looking for the younger ladies. I have been divorced for 13 years. It is that I have found a different enjoyment being single and doing the things I enjoy. Hopefully one day I when men start looking for a real woman of their own age I may think about trying again. Until then I will continue to listen to the song and music.
@theduke77
I am at the same place you’ve been in 2014.
It is 5 a.m, we’ve together for almost 20 years, the rest is the same.
How it went for you, pleas let me know?
@theduke77
I am at the same place you’ve been in 2014.
It is 5 a.m, we’ve together for almost 20 years, the rest is the same.
How it went for you, pleas let me know?
I have always enjoyed reading people's takes on songs, but never chimed in. This will be my first and last, but please bare with me, this post is a way for me to cleanse my soul in a way.
I've listened to this song for 30 years, always thought it was cool, very sad, but in a far off way. Didn't really listen to the lyrics much, just the song title mostly. Ian's voice so monotone, almost like he's got no feeling. Never really understood.
I am writing this at almost 4 am, on my laptop. To my left, with her back to me lays my wife, asleep but restless, and almost every night she whimpers in her sleep, and it kills me. Together for ten years, married for 3. She's my best friend, I love her very much, but the love I feel isn't the way it was, as she still loves me. We have grown apart in so many ways, to many to name. I have felt this way for a couple years, and always thought it's OK, it will change, it's just temporary. Than I met someone at work, that over several years of working together brought back feelings I used to have, those sparks only love can bring, and I remembered how it was supposed to be, and I hated myself, and I quit my job, because it's so painful to realize how something just a wall over can make you so happy, but know it will never be, and the betrayal these feelings were to my wife. My Wife knows there is something wrong, and it is scaring her to death. I have lashed out, been cold and distant, yet she still tries. And I love her for that, but...starting to hate it. We are so the same as when we met, but so different, I try to bring it up but it's always deflected, and everyday I feel more suffocated. I know what I have to do, they always say the truth will set you free, but the suffering I feel now, I do not want her to feel. So I lay here sometimes, hoping I never wake up. She will never know the darkness in my heart, and thus will never be scarred.She has did nothing wrong but love me and count on me to do the same.
The monotone in Ian's voice is the realization that what you thought was the greatest thing ever, that made you happy to be alive, has turned into something that can only be described as cancer of the soul, and it grows, and it leaves you numb, because it is always there, and never goes away, and the acceptance that comes with that, and the realization that your only options are to bring complete sorrow to the one you least want to hurt in the world, or just suck it up, which I have decided since I'm a coward, being numb is the only way to survive.
Love will tear you apart is the most beautiful, truthful and painful song I have ever heard, or felt. Just pray to God that you never truly understand it's meaning.
@theduke77 Just leave. You're wasting her life. You owe her that.
@theduke77 Just leave. You're wasting her life. You owe her that.
@shewolf80 It's not that simple as he has eloquently put it
@shewolf80 It's not that simple as he has eloquently put it
@theduke77 it truly hurts to fall out of love with some one you thought was the love of your life however it is eveny worse to love the love of your life and them not return their feelings
@theduke77 it truly hurts to fall out of love with some one you thought was the love of your life however it is eveny worse to love the love of your life and them not return their feelings
@theduke77 I hope you stayed with your wife. Wives are the most precious thing in the world.
@theduke77 I hope you stayed with your wife. Wives are the most precious thing in the world.
@theduke77 Today March 21 2002, I am reading your thoughts of 2014. Not knowing you or how your life is now. I too was in the situation of a marriage going wrong. I tried so hard to make it work but nothing mattered. I felt as I was the third person on my marriage. Today is the first time I heard the song "Love will tear us apart" by Ian. Oh, if I had only heard it earlier it would have made my choice of leaving the marriage easier. It took 27 years to take that step of freedom. I...
@theduke77 Today March 21 2002, I am reading your thoughts of 2014. Not knowing you or how your life is now. I too was in the situation of a marriage going wrong. I tried so hard to make it work but nothing mattered. I felt as I was the third person on my marriage. Today is the first time I heard the song "Love will tear us apart" by Ian. Oh, if I had only heard it earlier it would have made my choice of leaving the marriage easier. It took 27 years to take that step of freedom. I am middle aged and most men are looking for the younger ladies. I have been divorced for 13 years. It is that I have found a different enjoyment being single and doing the things I enjoy. Hopefully one day I when men start looking for a real woman of their own age I may think about trying again. Until then I will continue to listen to the song and music.
@theduke77 Today March 21 2002, I am reading your thoughts of 2014. Not knowing you or how your life is now. I too was in the situation of a marriage going wrong. I tried so hard to make it work but nothing mattered. I felt as I was the third person on my marriage. Today is the first time I heard the song "Love will tear us apart" by Ian. Oh, if I had only heard it earlier it would have made my choice of leaving the marriage easier. It took 27 years to take that step of freedom. I...
@theduke77 Today March 21 2002, I am reading your thoughts of 2014. Not knowing you or how your life is now. I too was in the situation of a marriage going wrong. I tried so hard to make it work but nothing mattered. I felt as I was the third person on my marriage. Today is the first time I heard the song "Love will tear us apart" by Ian. Oh, if I had only heard it earlier it would have made my choice of leaving the marriage easier. It took 27 years to take that step of freedom. I am middle aged and most men are looking for the younger ladies. I have been divorced for 13 years. It is that I have found a different enjoyment being single and doing the things I enjoy. Hopefully one day I when men start looking for a real woman of their own age I may think about trying again. Until then I will continue to listen to the song and music.
@theduke77 I am at the same place you’ve been in 2014. It is 5 a.m, we’ve together for almost 20 years, the rest is the same. How it went for you, pleas let me know?
@theduke77 I am at the same place you’ve been in 2014. It is 5 a.m, we’ve together for almost 20 years, the rest is the same. How it went for you, pleas let me know?