I'm tired of everyone saying things like "He's doing it to himself" and "He should just leave her" and "He likes the abuse" and "He's using her for sex". Obviously he enjoys the sex, but that's not why he's with her. He's in love with her and feels like the only way she'll stay around is if he gives in. He's miserable with her but he's even more miserable without her. And he doesn't like the abuse, he just accepts it because he feels like it's better than nothing. That's what it's like when you have no self esteem. The most important line in this song is "Well I guess I should stick up for myself But I really think it's better this way" because for some people, being abused truly is better than being away from someone you love.
@BigE254 Sir, unless you are independently wealthy, could you please do man-kind a favour, and immediatly start training to become a professional psychologist?
@BigE254 Sir, unless you are independently wealthy, could you please do man-kind a favour, and immediatly start training to become a professional psychologist?
You are so correct - this month I am 20 years without the girl I was supposed to marry, and last night I drempt of her again (I hate that). So even though you know they are bad for you, and your state of mind, the heart never forgets. You just deal with it, hoping one day they will see 'sense', and change their ways.
You are so correct - this month I am 20 years without the girl I was supposed to marry, and last night I drempt of her again (I hate that). So even though you know they are bad for you, and your state of mind, the heart never forgets. You just deal with it, hoping one day they will see 'sense', and change their ways.
@BigE254 Yeah, you nailed it. I understood it instantly. He knows he's being used, he is fully aware, but he loves her and thinks he deserves it, and would rather deal with the abuse than to fully lose her. I envy those who do not relate to that interpretation of this song - it makes all too much sense to me.
@BigE254 Yeah, you nailed it. I understood it instantly. He knows he's being used, he is fully aware, but he loves her and thinks he deserves it, and would rather deal with the abuse than to fully lose her. I envy those who do not relate to that interpretation of this song - it makes all too much sense to me.
I'm tired of everyone saying things like "He's doing it to himself" and "He should just leave her" and "He likes the abuse" and "He's using her for sex". Obviously he enjoys the sex, but that's not why he's with her. He's in love with her and feels like the only way she'll stay around is if he gives in. He's miserable with her but he's even more miserable without her. And he doesn't like the abuse, he just accepts it because he feels like it's better than nothing. That's what it's like when you have no self esteem. The most important line in this song is "Well I guess I should stick up for myself But I really think it's better this way" because for some people, being abused truly is better than being away from someone you love.
@BigE254 Sir, unless you are independently wealthy, could you please do man-kind a favour, and immediatly start training to become a professional psychologist?
@BigE254 Sir, unless you are independently wealthy, could you please do man-kind a favour, and immediatly start training to become a professional psychologist?
You are so correct - this month I am 20 years without the girl I was supposed to marry, and last night I drempt of her again (I hate that). So even though you know they are bad for you, and your state of mind, the heart never forgets. You just deal with it, hoping one day they will see 'sense', and change their ways.
You are so correct - this month I am 20 years without the girl I was supposed to marry, and last night I drempt of her again (I hate that). So even though you know they are bad for you, and your state of mind, the heart never forgets. You just deal with it, hoping one day they will see 'sense', and change their ways.
Now THAT is true love.
Now THAT is true love.
@BigE254 Hey it's Dexter Holland AKA. lead singer of the offspring and you nailed it! That is what I was going for in the song
@BigE254 Hey it's Dexter Holland AKA. lead singer of the offspring and you nailed it! That is what I was going for in the song
@BigE254 Yeah, you nailed it. I understood it instantly. He knows he's being used, he is fully aware, but he loves her and thinks he deserves it, and would rather deal with the abuse than to fully lose her. I envy those who do not relate to that interpretation of this song - it makes all too much sense to me.
@BigE254 Yeah, you nailed it. I understood it instantly. He knows he's being used, he is fully aware, but he loves her and thinks he deserves it, and would rather deal with the abuse than to fully lose her. I envy those who do not relate to that interpretation of this song - it makes all too much sense to me.