Lyric discussion by Seb86 

I agree that the song is more about pretending to be 'cool' than about actually being it. Appart from the melancholic tone of the song itself, the video is very telling. I'm a little surprised that anyone would suggest that Gwen may not have been behind the concept of this video, whether directly or indirectly. All of her videos carry her stamp very clearly and why should this song be an exception? Especially since most people seem convinced that this song is about a very public relationship of Gwen's.

The video shows Gwen receiving her guests. She's living in a very large house and is there all alone. In the song she says she found the love of her life but he does not seem to be around. In any case she has to greet her ex by herself whilst he has brough his new significant other. And at the first bump (literally) her flashbacks begin.
It's pretty obvious from the video that 'cool' doesn't mean happy. It's a beautiful video and a beautiful song.

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