I've seen this stuff two...too many times. It's like when you are sitting there in an abusive relationship, while the abuser is FINALLY sleeping, you sit and try to remind yourself of how this person first made you feel...used to make you feel...and you try to scavange the present for events that might be interpreted as the equivalent of the things that first allured you or attempts at equivalent of the things that snagged you in the first place...like, you wonder if maybe you, yourself, are being too much of an unappreciative bitch to see it now....then you feel sorry for them once you learn their "story"...so you feel bad rejecting them because of what has happened to them in their past....but then you realize that we ALL make our OWN messes and it's time to clean them up.
I've seen this stuff two...too many times. It's like when you are sitting there in an abusive relationship, while the abuser is FINALLY sleeping, you sit and try to remind yourself of how this person first made you feel...used to make you feel...and you try to scavange the present for events that might be interpreted as the equivalent of the things that first allured you or attempts at equivalent of the things that snagged you in the first place...like, you wonder if maybe you, yourself, are being too much of an unappreciative bitch to see it now....then you feel sorry for them once you learn their "story"...so you feel bad rejecting them because of what has happened to them in their past....but then you realize that we ALL make our OWN messes and it's time to clean them up.