Lyric discussion by sagaxfilos 

well in light of djfrisk's post this song takes on a whole new incredible meaning IMO, i still agree the song can legitimately be understood as shortandsweetem analyzed, altho to me the line "pour a little salt..." recalls conquerors sowing fields with salt to make the infertile, and so to sow the fledgling relationship with salt to kill in before it ever happens, which anticipates the cutting of the ropes

Now the other interpretation. Imagine that Bon Iver has had a terrible, horrible break up years ago and his "skinny love" is a new girl he is beginning to see. and it is also important that in this scenario bon iver's relationship with the skinny love is ruined by his long ago breakup

First, he hopes they can make it a whole year since it is so hard for him to keep a relationship together.

Then he TOLD her that SHE had to be the patient, balanced, etc. partner in the relationship. And in the morning he will be better, no longer haunted by the ghosts of the past that come out at night perhaps, and in this way the morning will be a different "kind" in quotes.

"suckle on the hope in lite brassiere" a wonderful line, combining maternal love (suckle) and conjugal love (lite brassiere) into an expression of how bon iver hopes that with this love he can bury his past.

now i propose that the speaker changes. I would argue that the lines from "now all your love is wasted..." until the end are spoken by ms. skinny love herself who does not understand bon iver's internal struggles.

his love has been wasted on his former love, no one will love him when is stuck in the past, no one can fight his past for him and he will fall far behind

this leaves the speaker of the the second appearance of the "i told you to be..." section interestingly ambiguous, it could be bon iver telling her again and again that he needs her to be the rock, or it could be ms. skinny love telling him that she needs a rock of her own.... who can tell? :)

Wonderful interpretation, it just makes so much sense!

I just love the wonderful ambiguity in all of Bon Iver's songs and the fact that you can read so many things into them, even the presence of a female speaker.

i just very very resently lost my husband to suicied and this song is just amazing my son sent it too he says im strong and moving forward is going to be so very hard but listing to skinny love i can here my husband telling me to be patient and this hole in my chest well im holding all the pieces all my love feels wasted im not sure i just know that this song is very real to me

Beautifully done.

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