I relate with this song so much. I only heard a snippet of it and I instantly knew what it was all about because it practically tells the story of a relationship I was in.
I was head over heels for this guy who was perfection to me. Everything about him was beautiful, but the way he treated me. I wasn't ugly...I was modeling, at the time for Christ's sake, but I felt invisible to him every time we went out together because he was always looking at every other woman in the room. He would tell me things like, "I've always loved blondes....I can't help but look at them." I am a blonde. He would make comments about every women under the guise that he just admired female beauty...from an almost artistic perspective, but it was all a lie and I knew it. My self esteem was so low and given my looks then, I shouldn't have been so self-conscious.
This song is an affirmation. What happens in these situations where women have been in relationships like mine is that you become increasingly bitter, jealous, and paranoid. You start hating other women and it drives you crazy whenever another woman is around - a habit that is self-destructive to your entire life. Many women never overcome this problem. They don't know how...but I did. I started realizing that the man was the one with the problem...and that I was also in the shoes of those women I hated for being pretty or attractive to my boyfriend. Somewhere, some poor girl in many instances had been seething in insane jealousy over me when her boyfriend looked at me.
It's a vicious cycle of turning women against women and it's only broken when the woman dating the jerk breaks the cycle and embraces womankind. That doesn't mean becoming a lesbian or a man-hating feminazi...it just means standing up for yourself, realizing your own self-worth, and not blaming other women (who can actually be your allies) for the shortcomings of a man who doesn't realize the harm his wandering eyes and remarks cause...or who does realize and just doesn't care.
It's a brilliant song. Dar is a brilliant, brilliant songwriter. I just heard this song two days ago...and I'm so hooked. This song really touched my heart and brought back the feelings of pain and hurt and the triumph of learning to overcome and be secure in your skin.
I relate with this song so much. I only heard a snippet of it and I instantly knew what it was all about because it practically tells the story of a relationship I was in.
I was head over heels for this guy who was perfection to me. Everything about him was beautiful, but the way he treated me. I wasn't ugly...I was modeling, at the time for Christ's sake, but I felt invisible to him every time we went out together because he was always looking at every other woman in the room. He would tell me things like, "I've always loved blondes....I can't help but look at them." I am a blonde. He would make comments about every women under the guise that he just admired female beauty...from an almost artistic perspective, but it was all a lie and I knew it. My self esteem was so low and given my looks then, I shouldn't have been so self-conscious.
This song is an affirmation. What happens in these situations where women have been in relationships like mine is that you become increasingly bitter, jealous, and paranoid. You start hating other women and it drives you crazy whenever another woman is around - a habit that is self-destructive to your entire life. Many women never overcome this problem. They don't know how...but I did. I started realizing that the man was the one with the problem...and that I was also in the shoes of those women I hated for being pretty or attractive to my boyfriend. Somewhere, some poor girl in many instances had been seething in insane jealousy over me when her boyfriend looked at me.
It's a vicious cycle of turning women against women and it's only broken when the woman dating the jerk breaks the cycle and embraces womankind. That doesn't mean becoming a lesbian or a man-hating feminazi...it just means standing up for yourself, realizing your own self-worth, and not blaming other women (who can actually be your allies) for the shortcomings of a man who doesn't realize the harm his wandering eyes and remarks cause...or who does realize and just doesn't care.
It's a brilliant song. Dar is a brilliant, brilliant songwriter. I just heard this song two days ago...and I'm so hooked. This song really touched my heart and brought back the feelings of pain and hurt and the triumph of learning to overcome and be secure in your skin.