True story. 1996 Im in college in the Mac lab and the "information superhighway" was new. So im in this chat room (Wow, people from all over the country talking in here at the same time?? amazing) and I see a name in the guest list, Elise. So I type to her "oh Elise it doesnt matter what you say" .... and she replies "I just can't stay here every yesterday" Holy shit!! she knows The Cure. We chatted every night. Sent emails (new at the time), eventually led to snail mail and photographs of each other, eventually led to phone calls (i was in Lancaster,PA she was in college in LA) ..remember, this was ALL before online dating. So we decided to meet up during winter break after communicating for 3 months (Actually, I graduated that Dec.96) I flew out there and spent a week with her at her home in Mesa, AZ and she came back with me to philly for a week. We fell deep for each other, but realised our real lives were 3000 miles apart, so it never went further. Thinking back, I dont believe in fate but it's amazing how it all happend because of this song. She was beautiful and I miss her.
@spokexx That does sound pretty fantasyesque (I'm too much the stereotypical cynical genXer to use the term "romantic" in a positive sense I'm afraid <g>). Certainly by '96 The Cure was pretty well-known...depends what sort of chatroom it was, but I'd say at this time in some circles it wouldn't at all be surprising to happen upon a fellow Cure fan. I first started listening to them in '87 (after hearing "How Beautiful You Are" on the radio), and the American "alternative music scene" in which The Cure has always been a favourite was pretty lively even...
@spokexx That does sound pretty fantasyesque (I'm too much the stereotypical cynical genXer to use the term "romantic" in a positive sense I'm afraid <g>). Certainly by '96 The Cure was pretty well-known...depends what sort of chatroom it was, but I'd say at this time in some circles it wouldn't at all be surprising to happen upon a fellow Cure fan. I first started listening to them in '87 (after hearing "How Beautiful You Are" on the radio), and the American "alternative music scene" in which The Cure has always been a favourite was pretty lively even then.
On a random note: can you define "online dating" in the sense you mean? I remember '96 well (it's the year I finished my undergrad degree too, only in spring) and what the 'net was like at the time (the Web had made its grand entrance in '93, IIRC: I remember a feud rapidly developing over preferences in UNIX-based browsers), and certainly, online pickups and, err, other things, were already pretty common by that point. Indeed, by then commercial ISPs — AOL and the like — had appeared too, I believe, and the phenomena I mentioned in relation to internet "dating" (?) certainly existed before those.
I should have thought that just having graduated you would have had some options as to where you might go next (literally and figuratively), and if things were looking serious by that time already, you could have tried to secure yourself in a more feasible location, at least for visiting. I'm sorry it didn't work out. (You should write a song about it!)
True story. 1996 Im in college in the Mac lab and the "information superhighway" was new. So im in this chat room (Wow, people from all over the country talking in here at the same time?? amazing) and I see a name in the guest list, Elise. So I type to her "oh Elise it doesnt matter what you say" .... and she replies "I just can't stay here every yesterday" Holy shit!! she knows The Cure. We chatted every night. Sent emails (new at the time), eventually led to snail mail and photographs of each other, eventually led to phone calls (i was in Lancaster,PA she was in college in LA) ..remember, this was ALL before online dating. So we decided to meet up during winter break after communicating for 3 months (Actually, I graduated that Dec.96) I flew out there and spent a week with her at her home in Mesa, AZ and she came back with me to philly for a week. We fell deep for each other, but realised our real lives were 3000 miles apart, so it never went further. Thinking back, I dont believe in fate but it's amazing how it all happend because of this song. She was beautiful and I miss her.
@spokexx That does sound pretty fantasyesque (I'm too much the stereotypical cynical genXer to use the term "romantic" in a positive sense I'm afraid <g>). Certainly by '96 The Cure was pretty well-known...depends what sort of chatroom it was, but I'd say at this time in some circles it wouldn't at all be surprising to happen upon a fellow Cure fan. I first started listening to them in '87 (after hearing "How Beautiful You Are" on the radio), and the American "alternative music scene" in which The Cure has always been a favourite was pretty lively even...
@spokexx That does sound pretty fantasyesque (I'm too much the stereotypical cynical genXer to use the term "romantic" in a positive sense I'm afraid <g>). Certainly by '96 The Cure was pretty well-known...depends what sort of chatroom it was, but I'd say at this time in some circles it wouldn't at all be surprising to happen upon a fellow Cure fan. I first started listening to them in '87 (after hearing "How Beautiful You Are" on the radio), and the American "alternative music scene" in which The Cure has always been a favourite was pretty lively even then.
On a random note: can you define "online dating" in the sense you mean? I remember '96 well (it's the year I finished my undergrad degree too, only in spring) and what the 'net was like at the time (the Web had made its grand entrance in '93, IIRC: I remember a feud rapidly developing over preferences in UNIX-based browsers), and certainly, online pickups and, err, other things, were already pretty common by that point. Indeed, by then commercial ISPs — AOL and the like — had appeared too, I believe, and the phenomena I mentioned in relation to internet "dating" (?) certainly existed before those.
I should have thought that just having graduated you would have had some options as to where you might go next (literally and figuratively), and if things were looking serious by that time already, you could have tried to secure yourself in a more feasible location, at least for visiting. I'm sorry it didn't work out. (You should write a song about it!)
@spokexx thats an amazing story.
@spokexx thats an amazing story.
Would you be up for discussing this in a podcast? Like how internet has changed our lives.
Would you be up for discussing this in a podcast? Like how internet has changed our lives.
@spokexx So sad.... gave me total goosebumps.....
@spokexx So sad.... gave me total goosebumps.....