Can you make it real
Make it more than will
More than just feel
We are on a ride
We're on it all the time
It's at the front of your mind

My stepfather looks just like David Bowie
But he hates David Bowie
I think Bowie's cool
I think Lodger rules
I think my step dad's a fool

Without me there's nothing

I'm the only thing that dies
If it came down to your life or mine
I would do the stupid thing
And let you keep on living
And let you keep on living
And let you keep on living
And let you keep on living

"I'm alright," said the man to his wife
Waking up to a head full of bed
Full of what she said
She hadn't thought of it for a while
And when she did she thought of it differently
Than she thought she should be thinking
Just the thought of it's enough
To penetrate my comfort zone

Without me there's nothing

I'm the only thing that dies
If it came down to your life or mine
I would do the stupid thing
And let you keep on living
And let you keep on living
And let you keep on living
And let you keep on living



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Distopian Dream Girl song meanings
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    General Comment:I'm in the camp that maintains this song was mis-titled, and should have been "Solipsist's Dream Girl." Here's an interpretation that might seem like a small stretch, but which I would maintain is consistent, and will ring true for many people:

    Theme: I read this as being about the process of realizing that you care about someone else more than you care about yourself. That, I don't think, is not so controversial. But try this on for size:

    We start out with a vignette of a selfish kid; someone who dismisses people because of superficial disagreements ("my stepdad's a fool because he doesn't like David Bowie"). A more empathetic person might understand why someone with an uncanny resemblance to Bowie might get a little irked at having this pointed out repeatedly, and cut the guy some slack on matters of taste.

    In the next verse we get another vignette of a couple in bed, feeling unsettled, unable to control their reactions to the situation they find themselves in. My guess? Resist the temptation to interpet this song romantically and take another approach: she's pregnant. At least that's a major reason a married couple might be waking up and feeling a bit out of their comfort zone.

    Having children is the inflection point in the solipsist's life. It's the juncture where he realizes that his interests no longer come first, and he can no longer act in accordance with the philosophy he had adopted as a convient way to justify his selfish disposition.
    Flag greensubmarineon March 07, 2012   Link
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    General Comment:The first verse throws me off since it's really abstract. I feel like that verse was added as an afterthought, since it doesn't really jive with the other verses (which seem more lighthearted on the surface, with playful talk of step dads and wives). Maybe he got sick of trying to come up with anything meaningful and just threw some words together that rhymed :)

    The Bowie verse is my favorite. Lodger is a freakin' great & overlooked album. There's a strong sense of teenage rebellion going on here in the lyrics, and he sings it perfectly.

    The third verse about the man and the wife hints at some unspoken tension between the two ('hadn't thought of it for awhile', with 'it' being undefined, and 'penetrate my comfort zone'... may be sexual, who knows)

    The chorus is probably the most part of the song lyrically for me. There's a really great set of contrasting thoughts arranged side-by-side: selfish ('Without me there's nothing, I'm the only thing that dies') and unselfish ('If it came down to your life or mine, I would do the stupid thing and let you keep on living'). I'd wager that he's saying, despite all the BS that goes into dealing with so many people, he's willing to overlook it and focus on the good things rather than the bad.
    Flag iwannabeahipsteron June 14, 2011   Link
  • 0
    General Comment:song fuck rocks. so awesome. i can't be bothered to bicker about indie pedigree within an hour of hearing this song.

    "soforth" and "jesus kong" are spot on with their interpretations.

    when i first heard this song what jumped out was "david bowie" + "and let you keep on living". he says the latter with such a haunting reluctance/inevitability. damn. once if figured out the context it only became better. love the emphasis on "stupid". what a goddamn stupid thing it is to love. but we still do the stupid thing.
    Flag thereisnospoon1on June 09, 2010   Link
  • -1
    My Opinion:My stepfather looks just like David Bowie
    But he hates David Bowie

    the best verse ever!?
    Flag brngrson September 08, 2009   Link
  • +1
    General Comment:At first I took the phrase "Distopian Dream Girl" to mean the dream girl of a dystopia, the anti-dream girl. Let's say the singer's daydreams are analogous to people's dreams of a perfect society. She's twisted his daydreams to their antithesis the way dystopias imagine an eroded future society. "Just the thought of it's enough/To penetrate my comfort zone," he sings. Maybe they're not happy but they're die-for-each-other in love. He likes the pain she causes him because it's real and it pulls him out of his solipsism.

    A more romantic interpretation: envision a society that's gone to shit, and she's the only deliverance from the suffering and pain that characterizes everyone's daily lives. She's Julia in 1984.

    Or something.
    Flag thegunsofbrixtonon July 20, 2009   Link
  • -1
    My Opinion:okay, well first, distopian dream girl is an absolutely beautiful song

    second, to anyone who days modest mouse is untalented (less advanced, was it?) or thinks that isaac brock is a "retarded kid" has not heard sad sappy sucker, long drive, or lonesome crowded west. if those albums do not cement in you love for isaac, jeremiah, and eric then nothing can mend your stone heart.

    "without me there's nothing" is a great lyric, doug is a god
    Flag subprimeon May 27, 2009   Link
  • -1
    General Comment:Two/three years ago that comparison, I think, was acceptable. Commenting on that now, with path Death Cab has fallen down to, is a completely different story. Terrific song. All good bands. Different strokes for different folks.
    Flag MIghtyChorizoon May 14, 2009   Link
  • 0
    General Comment:damn people are fucking lame arguing about whats the best indie, this song is great and noone seems to notice that, also please never compare death cab for cutie to built to spill, bts is too good to be lobbed into a group like death cab for cutie
    Flag topicalrushon April 16, 2009   Link
  • -1
    General Comment:built to spill = 75% indie + 25% grunge
    after all doug marsch did come from Tree People, pretty much a grunge band.
    Flag modestmousenirvanaon September 22, 2007   Link
  • +1
    General Comment:I think someone who formerly help a solipsistic viewpoint and has since changed because of some connection with another would, looking back, see their decision to choose anything at all over their own life as either a) apocolyptic (or dystopian - i.e. the opposite of paradise) or b) a form or maturation from a self-centered philosophy. Thus since the speaker here choose the stupid choice from his philisophical perspective he can only reconcile that by changing his perspective (or perhaps the action was at the same time a paradigmatic shift). The narrative moves to a married couple in bed sleeping after the decision is made, perhaps another invocation of maturation and love. But at the same time their is a sense of something lost...perhaps he did chose her life, and she is considering the consequences for himself and herself from his philisophical perspective.
    Flag jesuskongon September 12, 2007   Link

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