Killing a southern belle is all you know how to do
That and give other people hell
It's what they expect from you too
But I wouldn't have you how you want

I don't want to walk around
I don't even want to breathe
I live in a southern town
Where all you can do is grit yr teeth

But I wouldn't have you how you want
How come you're not ashamed of what you are?
And sorry that you're the one she got?
Ain't nobody looking now

Nobody nothing's said
No one's about to shout
Nobody's seen red
But I wouldn't have you how you want

You're killing a southern belle
Killing a southern belle
Killing a southern belle



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"Southern Belle" as written by Steven P. Smith

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    General Comment:Wow, I got something completely different from this song. Now that I look at other people's responses i can see that Elliott meant his step-father, but I still like my interpretation too, even if it is incorrect :)

    I always thought it was about a man who was in love with a woman who was in an abusive relationship with some other man (in a southern town). He loved her, but they could never be together because she was dependent on her abusive boyfriend (as many in such relationships are), and as a result, the speaker could "never love you how you want". The southern town part would in this case symbolize conventional behavior, where it is frowned upon to interfere in another person's relationship. As a result, all the speaker could do was "grit his teeth".
    I also thought he stopped speaking to his love and added an aside to the abusive boyfriend himself ("How come you're not ashamed of what you are?
    And sorry that you're the one she got?")

    I was totally off the ball here in reality, but I still think this makes sense as an interpretation of this beautiful song :)
    Flag koipsuon October 21, 2012   Link
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    General Comment:this is one of my favorite elliott smith songs which is kind of unusual since, to me, it's one of his more "straight forward" works in the sense that the lyrics seem to be exactly what he wanted to get across to the listener. in most of his other songs he leaves a lot up to the listener to form their own vision of what the song means or use his songs as vehicles for expressing various feelings. i honestly put off signing up for an account on this site for years because every song of his i opened the first comment was always "this song is clearly about heroin." don't get me wrong, if you want to envision every song by elliott as an expression of his love/hate relationship with drugs, knock yourself out, but you are going to seriously miss the boat on his creative genius.

    anyways, i think elliott is more direct with the lyrics in this song because it's one of the few songs of his that is fed directly off of hate and contempt. he mentions in interviews i've read of how he had a lot of terrible experiences as a child in dallas. "i don't want to walk around i don't even want to breath i live in a southern town where all you can do is grit your teeth" to me is an illustration of suffering from physical abuse as a child and not having anywhere to go or anyone to speak to. he was afraid to do anything around his step-father as a child, scared to be seen or even breath the wrong way out of fear of his step-father's reaction. this is texas, where i also grew up, during a time when getting your ass kicked by your dad was just a part of life, deal with it. grit your teeth. it will make a man out of you. obviously it was taken entirely too far by many parents.
    Flag asouthern729on July 23, 2011   Link
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    General Comment:Seems to be about a man who abuses and neglects his wife, both publicly and domestically, and it's considered a norm and an acceptable thing for him to do this.
    Flag Anilandon July 03, 2011   Link
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    General Comment:It's 'ain't nobody looking now'. just sayin'
    Flag horatioduneon December 10, 2010   Link
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    General Comment:Sweet guitar on this one. Enjoyed the explanations.
    Flag Willboeon October 21, 2009   Link
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    General Comment:After reading the books have to say this about the suffocation his mother suffered in the hands of ES's step-dad.
    It's also a naive interpretation of adult relationships comitted to vinyl by a wronged party.
    That said it is a powerful argument and a musical gem.
    The fervour towards the end is painful and is as close to actually hitting someone - I know he picked fights with pub bullies according to the prose - that I think he came.
    As angry as the song is I think it's impotent. It's the rage of the helpless and small.
    I love it.
    Flag Hobbespawnon October 06, 2008   Link
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    General Comment:yepp...i picked up the whole stepdad/mom abusive situation that elliott apparently endured as a kid.
    Flag au_revoir_vanessaon October 05, 2008   Link
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    General Comment:This song is beautiful.
    "You're killing a southern belle."
    I wonder what his step dad thought after listening to this song.
    Flag notitle147on September 14, 2008   Link
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    General Comment:How come you're not ashamed of what you are?
    And sorry that you're the one she got?

    love it.
    Flag bitterbritteron May 13, 2008   Link
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    General Comment:"How come your..not ashamed of what..you are?"
    I love that line so much. I wish he was alive so I could tell him how much his music means to me, it's more powerful than anything I ever have and ever will hear.
    Flag kaitlynthefirston March 23, 2008   Link

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