father, father,
tell me where have you been?
It's been hell not having you here
I've been missing you so bad
and you don't seem to care

when I go to sleep at night, you're not there
when I go to sleep at night, do you care?

do you even miss us?
your bottles your mistress
I need to know, I need to know
why are you walking away?
was it something I did? did I make a mistake?
'cause I'm trying to deal with the pain
I don't understand this, is this how it ends?

I will try to understand...

father, father
tell me where are you now?
it's been hell not having you
last thing I heard you were fed up,
you're skipping town, with no note telling where

when I go to sleep at night, you're not there
when I go to sleep at night, do you care?

I need to know, I need to know
why are you walking away?
was it something I did? did I make a mistake?
'cause I'm trying to deal with the pain
I don't understand this, is this how it ends?

why are you running away?
I don't understand this, is this how it ends?
why are you running away?
tell me please, tell me please, I need to know

is this what you call a family? (x4)

it's been seven years wishing that you'd draw the line (is this what you call a family?)
but I carry the thought along with you in my mind (is this what you call a family?)
is this what you call a family? (is this what you call a family?)
is this what you call a family? (is this what you call a family?)

family (x2)

why are you walking away?
was it something I did? did I make a mistake?
'cause I'm trying to deal with the pain
I don't understand this, is this how it ends?

why are you running away?
I don't understand this, is this how it ends?
why are you running away?
tell me please, tell me please, I need to know

is this what you call a family? (x4)



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    General Comment:This song was written about Katelynn's kids because they grew up without their father, he left them and this song is from their point of view.

    this is what I think of the song:
    [father, father,
    tell me where have you been?
    It's been hell not having you here
    I've been missing you so bad
    and you don't seem to care]
    this is when the children have grown up, I think that thier dad came back and now they are questioning him, "where have you been", and that they could have really used their dad around but he didn't care enough

    [when I go to sleep at night, you're not there
    when I go to sleep at night, do you care?]
    They are wondering if their father ever though about them when they where at home without him

    [do you even miss us?
    your bottles your mistress
    I need to know, I need to know
    why are you walking away?
    was it something I did? did I make a mistake?
    'cause I'm trying to deal with the pain
    I don't understand this, is this how it ends?]
    This is showing that he cared more about the drink and his bit on the side rather than his family and the children then go on to think that it was their fault and that they did something to make him leave, they start to blame themselves for something that he did.

    I will try to understand...

    [father, father
    tell me where are you now?
    it's been hell not having you
    last thing I heard you were fed up,
    you're skipping town, with no note telling where]
    Its been hard for them growing up without a dad, he just left town and left them with no explanation and now they are wondering where he could be

    when I go to sleep at night, you're not there
    when I go to sleep at night, do you care?

    I need to know, I need to know
    why are you walking away?
    was it something I did? did I make a mistake?
    'cause I'm trying to deal with the pain
    I don't understand this, is this how it ends?

    why are you running away?
    I don't understand this, is this how it ends?
    why are you running away?
    tell me please, tell me please, I need to know

    [is this what you call a family? (x4)]
    they are starting to wonder if this is a real family, they don't know what its like to have a dad around and they are questioning it wondering if it is a real family, on the other hand it could be when a another man has come in to their mothers life and taking the place of their dad, and now they are wondering if this is what its like to be a family

    [it's been seven years wishing that you'd draw the line (is this what you call a family?)
    but I carry the thought along with you in my mind (is this what you call a family?)
    is this what you call a family? (is this what you call a family?)
    is this what you call a family? (is this what you call a family?)]
    they have spent years wishing that their dad would come back and they will always be wondering if he will come back and they will always be thinking of him

    family (x2)

    why are you walking away?
    was it something I did? did I make a mistake?
    'cause I'm trying to deal with the pain
    I don't understand this, is this how it ends?

    why are you running away?
    I don't understand this, is this how it ends?
    why are you running away?
    tell me please, tell me please, I need to know

    is this what you call a family? (x4)
    Flag shelley22on May 18, 2013   Link
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    My Opinion:To me this song meaning and everything to it just shows how lost a child or teenager could think and wonder how things are. Whether or not they have parents who are together or not and/or left them or come and go as they please, it deeply shows that they feel like a mistake or that they are the reason they left. It's a very deep song and I think it's amazing. Another thing that caught me was that obviously Kellin wrote it and a lot of people say his family is "broken" but to me I don't think that is exactly why Kellin wrote the song. I believe that he wrote the song bc his wife (katelynne) has two sons from a previous relationship and Kellin took them in bc their father left them hanging. Which to me would make a lot of sense, but anyways thats my thoughts on it.
    Flag SWS96on May 05, 2013   Link
  • +1
    General Comment:It's such a unique song compared to the rest of the songs they have produced about love between gf/bf kinda thing.
    I specifically love this line of the song "do you even miss us? your bottle's your mistress" It really hits those people who have alcoholic dads like I do.
    Flag Chanel1yon April 09, 2013   Link
  • +1
    Song Meaning:I believe this song was actually written about Katelynn's kids because they grew up without their father. But now Kellin is their father. This song is not written about Kellins "broken family". He did not grow up in a broken family. IT'S ABOUT KATELYNNS KIDS.
    Flag sydneylion March 30, 2013   Link
  • 0
    Song Meaning:The Meaning Of This Song Is Kellin (Lead Singer)
    Not Always Being Able To Be With Her Daughter.
    And I Believe His Father.
    Flag eddie5622on March 14, 2013   Link
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    Memory:This is sort of what kind of shit is happening with me.. My dads an alcoholic and gets drunk all the time. He's tried to kill himself like 6 times... And they were all my fault. But in the end, he's the one that left. Not me.
    Flag RazorKisson March 13, 2013   Link
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    My Interpretation:Father, father, tell me where have you been?
    Its been hell not having you here
    [Wondering where the father's been, and having a hard time]
    I've been missing you so bad
    And you don't seem to care
    [Child misses his father but he gets neglected anyway]
    When I go to sleep at night, you're not there
    When I go to sleep at night, do you care?
    [At night when the child goes to sleep the father's not there to tuck him in (a sign of caring)]

    Do you even miss us?
    [Questioning if he thinks about them while...]
    Your bottle's your mistress
    [...Drink alcohol, basically cheating on the children with the bottle]
    I need to know, I need to know
    [Child wants answers]

    CHORUS
    Why are you walking away?
    [Father leaving/ abandoning them]
    Was it something I did?
    Did I make a mistake cause
    [Child trying to figure out was it because of him]
    I'm trying to deal with the pain
    I don't understand this, is this how it is?
    [Child takes the blame upon himself, and confused as to why the father left]
    I will try to understand"
    [Even though he's leaving, he tries to see it's for the better]


    Father, father, tell me where are you now?
    Its been hell not having you
    [Wondering where the father's been, and having a hard time]
    Last thing I heard, you were fed up, you're skipping town
    With no note telling where
    [Father kind of up-and-left them, basically abandoned them without warning]
    When I go to sleep at night, you're not there
    When I go to sleep at night, do you care?
    [At night when the child goes to sleep the father's not there to tuck him in (a sign of caring)]

    I need to know, I need to know
    [Demanding, perhaps being frustrated trying to figure things out]

    CHORUS
    Why are you walking away?
    Was it something I did?
    Did I make a mistake cause
    I'm trying to deal with the pain
    I don't understand this, is this how it is?

    Why are you running away?
    [Why the father abandoned him]
    I don't understand this, is this how it is?
    [Still confused and questioning the situation]

    Why are you running away?
    Tell me please, tell me please, I need to know
    [Begging for the reason for leaving to be answered]

    Is this what you call a family?
    Is this what you call a family?
    Is this what you call a family?
    Is this what you call a family?
    [Basically calling out what a messed up family he has because of the father being an alcoholic and leaving him]

    Spent seven years wishing that you'd drop the line
    [For seven years he dealt with his father in his life, but he never wanted him there anymore]
    But I carry the thought along with you in my mind
    [He's his father, so some part loved him but the father's nonexistent]
    But is this what you call a family?
    Is this what you call a family?
    Family!
    [Still saying how messed up the family relationship with the father is]

    CHORUS
    Why are you walking away?
    Was it something I did?
    Did I make a mistake cause
    I'm trying to deal with the pain
    I don't understand this, is this how it is?

    Why are you running away?
    I don't understand this, is this how it is?
    Why are you running away?
    Tell me please, tell me please, I need to know

    Is this what you call a family?
    Is this what you call a family?
    Is this what you call a family?
    Is this what you call a family?
    Flag LeA480on December 01, 2012   Link
  • 0
    Memory:my dad did the same thing to me, and its been seven years since he left. funny how things work out. Anyway, this song really shows the self blame from a kids mind when dad leaves. it really catpures the feeling!
    Flag Pippalynneon November 05, 2012   Link
  • 0
    Memory:my dad did the same thing to me, and its been seven years since he left. funny how things work out. Anyway, this song really shows the self blame from a kids mind when dad leaves. it really catpures the feeling!
    Flag Pippalynneon November 05, 2012   Link
  • 0
    General Comment:It's so sad, this song really shows the self blame teenagers tend to have towards themselves when parents do hurtful things to their children, such as completely disregard them from their lives.
    Flag everyday24on July 30, 2012   Link

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