I wish that I had known in
That first minute we met
The unpayable debt
That I owed you

Because you'd been abused
By the bone that refused you
And you hired me
To make up for that

And walking in that room
When you had tubes in your arms
Those singing morphine alarms
Out of tune

They had you sleeping and eating
And I didn't believe them
When they called you
A hurricane thundercloud

When I was checking vitals
I suggested a smile
You didn't talk for a while
You were freezing

You said you hated my tone
It made you feel so alone
So you told me
I had to be leaving

But something kept me standing
By that hospital bed
I should have quit but instead
I took care of you

You made me sleep all uneven
And I didn't believe them
When they told me that there
Was no saving you



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"Kettering" as written by Peter Joseph Silberman

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    General Comment:When I first heard this song, I didn't look up the lyrics and just enjoyed it superficially, because I liked the sound and quiet vibe and I found it relaxing. Then on the third or fourth time, some words caught my interest while I was actually paying attention to them. I looked up the lyrics, and my entire relationship with the song shifted.

    I hadn't even realized the reference that the title was making until I read the lyrics and realized they were about someone terminally ill (presumably with cancer), and the person who has to be besides them through it all, watching them. Only then did I realize that "Kettering" was referring to the Memorial Sloan Kettering Center, a cancer center in New York where I spent every weekend of this past summer while my fifteen-year old cousin did her chemotherapy.

    After that, I went out for a night walk and just played the song on repeat and let myself cry to it. It's so beautiful, in the heartbreaking and plaintive way that it is, and it speaks with the humanity of pain, the simplicity of suffering. I've listened to the whole album since then and I know it's created on a foundation of metaphors, interpretations and fluctuating depictions that each song somehow plays into. But even though ever other song in 'Hospice' is just as brilliant, 'Kettering' has become something entirely different to me than just a song. Because my cousin is a hurricane thundercloud girl, and so were all the other children and young adults I got to meet frequently in her ward. So thank you, to The Antlers, for writing this piece.
    Flag ojk22on April 12, 2013   Link
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    General Comment:I just got out of an emotionally abusive relationship, and... god, even though the story at face value is being in love with a cancer patient, it's about so much more than that. It's what it feels like to be in a relationship where you know it isn't good for you, where you want to just love them and care for them because you're crazy about the person.

    Even though "Prologue" is the technical prologue, this is the best introduction to the situation that there is: he's with a girl he knows he ought to not be with, the signs that they are going to end up not together are all there, but he stays with her. His friends plead with him, tell him that it's futile, but as he says in the last bit:

    "You made me sleep all uneven
    And I didn't believe them
    When they told me that there
    Was no saving you"
    Flag Anilandon December 08, 2012   Link
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    Song Meaning:Well, this song is definitely a reference to cancer. Maybe even specifically Leukemia (considering the bone metaphor). But whether the entire album was a metaphor or a detailed account of a relationship with a dying person, I'm not sure. I've read accounts where the author supposedly worked at a Hospice, and I've read other accounts where the songs we're written purely from a metaphorical standpoint. But it doesn't matter, this is still one of the most touching and probably the saddest song I've ever heard. this applies literally and figuratively and anyone can relate this to abusive relationships, dying loved ones, lost loved ones or even (as in my case) Weltschmerz.

    Also I have no idea what "Kettering" means, it doesn't seem to be an average word, but rather a pronoun. Interestingly there is a cancer centre with a similar name, I wonder if it may be related. See link below:

    mskcc.org/
    Flag Tablet999on September 15, 2012   Link
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    My Interpretation:I saw in an interview with them and he said that the entire album is about his ex girlfriend. His ex girlfriend was extremely high maintenance and he was really whipped. Throughout the album he portrays her in a very negative light, almost as a monster as he says in an interview.

    In Kettering, the patient refers to the girlfriend and the person taking care of her is him. He uses this metaphor to show how much he attended to her and how whipped he was. The metaphor is actually very brilliant.
    Flag raleighton July 08, 2012   Link
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    General Comment:i know it's not about this, but a few of the songs on this album definitely relate to eating disorders from my viewpoint. especially, "they had you sleeping and eating/and i didn't believe them/when they called you/a hurricane thundercloud."
    this song is just so haunting and heartbreaking and beautiful.
    Flag shesavedmeon June 03, 2012   Link
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    General Comment:i think anyone who has felt helpless over a loved one's condition can relate to this.
    Flag inverseworldon January 26, 2012   Link
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    General Comment:this song is trying to say that shes in the hospital with cancer(if you listening to the album you would know more) and that shes so sad and angry hat she has it, he wants to help her but she keeps getting mad at him when he cant do anything to take this away and so he was warned that she would act like this but he still tried to help her.
    Flag savbisson December 07, 2011   Link
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    General Comment:I personally agree with lanaranjaverde; it's a about a doctor or nurse who works in the hospital, and meets someone from their past - a lover, a friend, a distant family member, something - as a bone cancer patient. The narrator had hurt the other before back when they knew each other well ("the unpayable debt"), and the hurricane thundercloud line could be the narrator's colleagues talking about how depressed/enraged the patient was about their fate, which the narrator finds hard to believe.

    The narrator tries to be distant and professional, "When I was checking vitals / I suggested a smile... You said you hated my tone / It made you feel so alone / So you told me / I had to be leaving" but this only hurts the other more. The "sleeping uneven" part could be, as others have said, sleeping beside the patient's bed, or it could be the narrator's guilt at not being able to save the patient.

    I don't know, this is just my personal interpretation. I think this song has many different meaning to different people, and it speaks to me even though I have never had cancer, or known someone with cancer. Lovely song, heartbreaking album.
    Flag missssilivrenon July 22, 2011   Link
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    General Comment:I found it really hard to listen to. I know people here have said it's probably named after a memorial/centre in the US, so it is coincidental, however I live near Kettering (the town in England) and just a few years ago one of my best friends watched her mum die of cancer in Kettering General Hospital. :/

    Beautiful but awful at the same time.
    Flag Seaholmeon June 27, 2011   Link
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    General Comment:They had you sleeping and eating
    And I didn't believe them
    When they called you
    A hurricane thundercloud


    Oh my god. That line makes me cry every time. It's like...how could someone go downward so fast? How could someone be fine, stable one minute, and then just crash?
    Flag Aquarius121on June 14, 2011   Link

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