You said this could only get better.
There's no rush, 'cause we have each other.
You said this would last forever,
But now I doubt if I was your only lover.

Are we just lost in time?
I wonder if your love's the same.
'Cause I'm not over you

Baby, don't talk to me.
I'm trying to let go
Not loving you is harder then you know.
'Cause girl your driving me so crazy

How can I miss you if you never would stay?
If you need time I guess I'll go away.
Inside me now there's only heartache and pain!
So where's the fire?
You've begun the rain.

Are we just lost in time?
I wonder if your love's the same
'Cause I'm not over you!

Baby, don't talk to me
I'm trying to let go
Not loving you is harder then you know,
('Cause girl your driving me so crazy)

And if you don't want me then
I guess I'll have to go!
Not loving you is harder then you know.

Yeah!

So I'll make the call,
And I'll leave you today
I'm gona miss you 'cause I love you baby
Yeah, I'll make the call
I'm leaving today

Leaving always drives me crazy!
Leaving always drives me crazy!

Baby, don't talk to me
I'm trying to let go.
Not loving you is harder
Then you know,

Yeah

Baby, don't talk to me
I'm trying to let go (I'm trying to let go)
Not loving you is harder
Then you know,
('Cause girl your driving me so crazy)

And if you don't want me then
I guess I'll have to go! (I guess I'll have to go)
Not loving you is harder then you know
(Girl your driving me so crazy)

Baby, don't talk to me
I'm trying to let go.
Not loving you is harder, then you know,
Girl your driving me so crazy.



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Track duration: 04:19

"Harder Than You Know" as written by John Feldmann, Writers Unknown

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    General Comment:This use to be my theme song everything related to me,
    well the meaning in my eyes and experience is:

    he thought that everything was going great he thought he wouldnt have to rush things because they had their love, he knows that she cheated on her and he wants her to have some feelings for him he wants something and not being able to hold her kiss her and call her his its very hard, he wonders if she is still the same he cant hear her voice its to hard to just be friends, hes going crazy, she would always be on and off with him, now all he has is the pain she left,hes giving her time,"wheres the fiar youve become the rain" is like saying wears our flam you have washed it out witch means the love they once had has been ruined , and no matter what pain she put him threw he still loves her , so instead he will just leave so he dosnt have to deal with the pain in his heart , it really is harder then they know whern they leave you for someone.

    but as for me
    my boyfriend and i went back out together he said all he did was a mistake but yet it still hurts threwout him dating her he would rub in my face how gorguse she was and how in love they were,but seriously she was states away they met on the internet she ended up being fake but yet i still love him with all my heart but back then that was honestly my theme song but then i had my very first kiss and it was with him he became crazy in love with me so everything is ok but honestly guys things will always get better :)
    Flag EmoCupCakeGirlon July 24, 2011   Link
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    General Comment:Um i dont even know what to say i dont think ive ever heard a song that sums up how i feel. At first i was like wtf ive never heard something like this from etf but after listen closely it brought up a whole bunch of stuff that ive been trying to bury. Im not the mushy type but by the end of the song i just had no choice but to cry a little. Thanks etf for this song it helped me realize that im not the only one in the world that feels that way.
    Flag Rockmetalthrashon July 21, 2011   Link
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    General Comment:i kinda hate this song cuz it reminds me too much of this guy..we've been broken up so many times but we cant stay away from each other..the last time was because he apparently cheated but still..no matter what we're tied..
    Flag SHEisKCon August 20, 2010   Link
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    General Comment:A lot of songs have made me tear up. Mostly songs by The Spill Canvas. They're so deep, and so meaningful.
    But this song, this song, is the only that has actually made me legit cry. And a lot.
    Every line just gets better and better and the chorus.... it could kill.
    I'm in love with this person - this incredible, fascinating, one of a kind person, who is also emotionally abusive, bipolar, has borderline personality disorder, is sadistic, compulsive, and complicated in so many ways. This person and I went through so much shit together. She put me through hell and back more times than one. She made me feel every single emotion in the book. And I fell in love - with the pain, with the feelings, with the adrenaline, with the confusion, the lies, the emotion, the reality, I fell in love with her and all of her compulsion and confusion. I was addicted to the pain, it made me feel alive, like I could do anything. She made me feel like the most amazing person in the world, and I loved it.
    But I couldn't live like that anymore. She screwed over one of my closest friends, who happens to mean the world to me and more. We stopped talking for months, and everything was back to normal in my life, but I missed her. I wanted her back so very desperately.
    I got over it. I accepted things for what they were, I attempted to move on with my life.
    But then, then we started talking again. The chorus is haunting to me. It could kill.

    "baby dont talk to me
    im trying to let go
    not loving you is harder than you know
    cause girl youre driving me so crazy"

    I was trying so hard to let go, but talking to her is just making me fall in love all over again. And I don't have it in me to stop talking to her, it's like an addiction, I can't resist. I need her, in some ways. And loving her is so hard, harder. than. she. knows. <3


    I also have strong feelings for the close friend I mentioned earlier.
    I don't want to be in a relationship with her or anything like that, but I'm addicted to her. She means so much to me. I have this huge fear of hurting her and losing her. She's the one who keeps me grounded, who keeps me going, who makes me realize everything that I'm doing right or wrong. She's one of a kind, and so much greater than the common person. She's hilarious, wise, amazing, beautiful. I don't know how to live without her. I'm so scared to do it.

    "how can i miss you if you never would stay
    if you need time i guess ill go away
    inside me now there's only heartache and pain
    so where's the fire,
    youve become the rain"

    This part reminds me of her. "How could I miss you if you never would stay?"
    We're going to be separated this next year because of high school. She's going to a different school, and I'm so terrifed of losing her and drifting from the only person that I know for sure that I love. The one who is always there, always cheers me up, always makes me happy. But despite all of that, I fear that I don't mean that much to her. How can I miss her when she's never truly stayed with me? You know?
    I've hurt her a few times, even though she says that I haven't. It's like... I shoved so much in her face, more than she could handle. If she needs time, I'll give it to her. I'll do anything for her. I'm torn between these two people, they both make me feel so alive in so many ways, and I'm confused. I give up on my heart. I'll do anything for some balance. For things to be right.

    This song explains my life in so many ways. And although no one will read this comment, it felt good to pour everything out to any random people willing to read this post. So, thanks, random dude, for listening to what no one else would understand. (:
    Flag liveforthemomentnowx407on August 20, 2010   Link
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    General Comment:It's a pretty decent song, but some of the lyrics are just plain cheesy, especially the chorus. "Cause girl, you're driving me so crazy" has to be one of the cheesiest lines I've ever heard. I never thought a band would seriously use a line like that. Don't get me wrong, some of Craig's other lyrics are great (10 Miles Wide, It's Just Me), but these lyrics are pretty cheesy..
    Flag astronomer9893on April 16, 2010   Link
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    General Comment:this isnt one of my fav songs on this war is ours but it is still sweet in a awkward kind of way
    Flag lelunolongershineson November 17, 2009   Link
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    General Comment:I love this song. It's one of my favorites by ETF, old AND new. I think the meaning of the song is so relatable to many people.

    I'm sure it's about a cheating lover. Pretty much the first four lines sum it up.

    \\\
    You said this could only get better
    There's no rush, 'cause we have each other
    You said this would last forever
    But now I doubt if I was your only lover
    \\\

    This signifies that she is unfaithful, and the chorus obviously shows that he still loves her.

    The second verse seems to me like he had suspicions "How can I miss you if you never would stay/If you need time I guess I'll go away" but he still loved her enough to trust her.

    And the "I'll make the call" part seems like he knows it will be hard, but it's what's best for him.


    Amazing song. Can't get enough of it; I find it on repeat a lot. I'm sure it's been playing in many people's ears when their lover was unfaithful. I know I love it. Everything about it is amazing.
    Flag xRAiNBoWxRoCKeRxon August 01, 2009   Link
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    General Comment:Aye, this was a song that really got to me when I could see me and my ex, dying if you will, and then when we actually did split bah, this song intensified my feelings a LOT xD.
    I guess I listen too deeply to songs, but it touched me a lot, and it's a nice change to see in Escape The Fate.
    It's also nice to see a site talking about an ETF song without everyone going insane over Ronnie being better than Craig and vice versa, 'cause they both have their own vocal strengths and differences, it mainly comes down to personal opinion.
    Flag EssenceInTheHearton July 24, 2009   Link
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    My Opinion:This song reminds me of this really unique plot I wrote out. I think I should be writing a story for fiction press based on this one. Love it.
    Flag iReadiWriteiConqueron June 04, 2009   Link
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    General Comment:I love 'baby don't talk to me, I'm trying to let go, not loving you is harder than you know' because once you are broken up with your significant other and they want to be "friends" they just don't understand how hard it is to hear their voice and at times misinterpret what they say, to what you want to hear. At times it's just better to not talk to that person until you're COMPLETELY over them because you don't to be led on, or the other way around.
    Flag Ramos10Mon May 05, 2009   Link

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