You want him, you need him,
It's so hard to please him,
You just don't dare,
And inside you're burning, with some secret yearnings,
you must not care,

Still won't you help me,
I'm flawed, desperate, angry with God,
cause he just won't care,
oh, excuse me, you're morning,
how callous and boring,
I brush your hair,
see your face, empty smile
I touch that face,
all the while

you know it wont stop, so you make an excuse to confuse the issue,
what make you think that i'll care about you?
when you lay on the ground till he tells you he's through,
he'll do what he'll do, and he'll do it to you,
and all the while,
he's been using you,
yes all the while,
he's abusing you,

so it finally dawned on me, yesterday morning,
i just can't stare,
and swallow the words, that your hero's perverted on what we share,
i'll kill him, I'll beat him. The cycle's repeating.
I hold thin arrogance
still wont you hold him and trust him,
you love him, so much, and he still wont care,
to see your face, with an empty smile,
cause i touched my place on you, and all the while...

she says it's so good, when it's so good,
this is so good, when it's no good,
this is so good, everybody so good,
everybody so good, when you're no good,
all the while, he's been using you,
yes all the while, he's abusing you,

with your naked excuse you confuse your misuse,
what makes you think that I should care what he'll do,
you lay on the ground till he tells you he's through,
and he makes up your mind that that's what you should do

cause all the while you, you've been using you,
yes all the while, you've been abusing you,
he hurts you, miss treats you, your own mind misleads you,
you just won't care,
when holes in your face cant be covered with makeup you'll still stay there.



Lyrics submitted by Hcmtnbiker

Track duration: 04:50


Abuse of SID song meanings
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    Song Meaning:I think it deals with the same subject as "Unkind", "Losing", "On the Radio", "Better", "Rapture", "House Carpenter" and quite possibly "Pills" and probably the majority of their songs. He is really good friends with a woman, most likely an ex of his, who is losing control of her life. She has a drug problem and she is in an abusive relationship with another man. The other man won't allow her to the guy that she is friends with. Like a lot of abusive relationships, the woman won't leave him even though he beats her. The man that she's friends with, is saying that "if you(the woman), don't care about what happens to you, then why should I? (you know it wont stop, so you make an excuse to confuse the issue, what makes you think that i'll care about you? She is always making up reasons that she was injured, like, "I fell down the stairs" type bullshit. I agree that SID stands for someone in denial.
    Flag satanaesinagogaon April 23, 2012   Link
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    General Comment:I have always held the feeling that "SID" stands for Someone In Denial. It works well enough.
    Flag SManzooron September 01, 2011   Link
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    General Comment:I think this song is definitely about a woman in an abusive relationship, because of the line about the makeup. That wouldn't really fit with the autistic child meaning.

    What if, throughout the song, the viewpoint changes from the abusive boyfriend/husband to God, back and forth?

    The first few lines would be from the abusers viewpoint, then it switches to God viewing the situation. "What makes you think that I'll care about you?" could be God proclaiming that he doesn't care what happens to the girl in her relationship, which is the point the boyfriend is trying to make, but the girl won't give up her religion, which creates the repeating cycle.

    Just my two cents.
    Flag EcstaticWaffleon February 27, 2010   Link
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    General Comment:If this is any of these theorys then this song is sure as hell complicated and maybe non of us will ever properly work it out

    To me it seems like a woman in a sexually or just normally abusive relationship.
    Wrong i know but the first time i heard this (probably because im a teenager) i heard something related to sex.. "when you lay on the ground till he tells you he's through,
    he'll do what he'll do, and he'll do it to you,
    and all the while,
    he's been using you" Do you sort of see what i mean?
    Flag ImProbablyWrongon January 21, 2010   Link
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    Song Meaning:The acronym SID is important to the meaning of the song. I, like imdaman1991, once thought it may be a reference to Sudden Infant Death, but we were both swayed.

    What I believe it does stand for is Sensory Integration Disorder/Dysfunction, or the inability to interpret or process the information coming in from the five senses. I'm just trying to figure out who he's pointing at. From the perspective of the child in the song, he/she may have SID because he/she cannot recognize the pain of being hit as a bad touch, thus is constantly striving for acceptance by the father. The father in the song may be stricken with SID as evident by his inability to control his emotions.

    As I was typing this, I started to juggle another concept that is far distant from above. The child has a form of autism, which would include a severe form of SID known as Sensory Defensiveness. SD means the simplest loving touch may be processed by the child's brain as a full fledged punch. If you read the lyrics as 'you' being the mother, she is using the diagnoses as a justification for his closed off and sometimes awful behavior toward her. Think for a few minutes about the Dustin Hoffman character in Rain Man. There are a couple of lines that may not follow this interpretation, but this could explain the "if you knew what this song was about you would tar and feather me" comment. He's criticizing the mentally challenged child, which is not exactly a social norm.
    Flag ElderEdgeon November 17, 2009   Link
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    My Interpretation:This song has played over and over in my head, and It woke me up this morning playing as as it could lound I just need to get it out what it means to me, I fell in about a year ago, everything was perfect, but before we meet she had decided to transfer to another collage by the end of the school year, that day came and it no longer worked out, both of us hurt we went on out ways in life.

    Inside I knew something was wrong it twisted me and I ignored the feeling untill Sent her a message saying I didnt really know where she was or how she was doing but i hope she was alive and well...somewhere

    her mom replyed telling me that she had dropped out of collage and moved in with a drug dealer...

    after a month of exchaning emails with her mom the picture of this song was painted in my head

    You want him, you need him
    It's so hard to please him
    You just don't dare

    He keeps her Self medicated on drugs and moon shine when she really needs help with her bi polar disorder
    and shes addicted to them now.


    And inside you're burning
    With some secret yearning
    You must not care (still won't you)
    Help me, I'm flawed, desperate
    Angry with God

    She would have a better life but with in her this irrational force is driving her to stay for the drugs
    To stay with the drugs she throughs away life to be with the drugs

    Me seeing the person I've loved die infront of me, and change into some one I dont know, desperate for her to return
    Angry with God besides my self with my thoughts my imagination playing out sinarious of awful things happening to her because of her addiction.

    'cause he just won't care
    Oh excuse me, you're mourning
    How calloused and boring
    I brush your hair

    Her "bf" doesnt know any thing thing about how serous bi polar disorder is ( I have it my self)
    shes broken down from it all
    I've done every thing I can to reach out to help her but it like yelling out to dead empty space
    no one ever answers,
    I cared about her took care of her.

    And see your face... empty smile...
    I touch that place, and all the while...
    (you know it won't stop)

    I'm haunted by her smile inside behind it she cant go on
    Yet I know she loves me, and is afraid what I would think if I saw her like this
    but I love her, and all I want is the best for her, even if she never has me in her life agin.


    So you made an excuse to confuse the issue
    What makes you think that I'll care about you?
    When you lay on the ground 'till he tells you he's through
    And he'll do what he'll do
    When he'll do it to you?

    Lying to her self she pushes on
    her "bf" abuses her injecting her with more heroin
    untill she will conform to his sexual will.


    And all the while, he's been using you,
    Yes, all the while... he's abusing you...
    So it finally dawned on me yesterday morning,
    I just can't stare

    I cant take her living her life this way, pushing the thought of her from my mind, she always comes back pleading in my dreams.

    And swallow the words that your hero's perverted,
    On what we share
    I'll kill him, I'll beat him, the cycle's repeating,
    I hold thin arrogance

    If i get my hands on that mother fucker I'll Kill him i'll beat him
    for what he has done to her

    Still won't you hold him and trust him
    You love him so much
    And he still won't care
    To see your face...

    Still she wont leave him following him to her demise
    hes throwing his own life away with hers
    To see her face broken
    With an empty smile...
    'cause i touched that place on you...
    And all the while...

    defeated irrationally pushing forward into a dead end I watch her give up in spirt accepting death
    I know I still can touch her heart
    yet all the while

    She says it's "it's so good, when it's so good, if this is so good, then it's no good!"
    If this is so good, everybody's so good, everybody's so good, when you're no good!

    Happy on a random high how it floods her brain with pleasure, how she is a slave to the needle


    And all the while, he's been using you
    Yes, all the while, he's abusing you
    With your naked excuse you confuse your misuse
    What makes you think I should care what he'll do?
    If you lay on the ground 'til he tells you he's through
    And he makes up your mind that that's what you should do
    'cause all the while you've been using you
    Yes, all the while you're abusing you...

    Repeated from above


    He hurts you, mistreats you
    Your own mind misleads you
    You just won't care
    When holes in your face
    Can't be covered with makeup
    You'll still stay there...

    You'll stay there ...i fear you'll die there baby please don't do this












    Flag govermentsecreton April 06, 2009   Link
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    General Comment:i think this song about his girlfriend and her new boyfriend who abuses her and the reason she's stay with him is besause he is part of the church and he is not but he still loves her so he puts up with it he still lovers her so he blames god for the abuse. about the kid i dont think so
    Flag heavenisdieingon March 11, 2009   Link
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    General Comment:During the part where J. quiets down and says "and I see your face" if you listen closely, he says something (I can't quite make it out). After "empty smile" he says "all I see is an empty smile" and finally after "I touch that place" he says "oh my god, what did he do to you?"

    Makes me think it's about abuse, don't you?
    Flag Lostnspirationon March 09, 2009   Link
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    My Interpretation:Well, firstly I think the SID is actually a reference to Sudden Infant Death.
    And the fact that Loren's mother killed his brother when he was very young.

    And I think, well, personally I think the song is about a woman in an abusive relationship that, though she wants it to end, and it is hurting her, she just can't bring herself to leave because deep down she really loves the guy.

    That's my interpretation =]
    Flag imdaman1991on November 11, 2008   Link
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    General Comment:I also like to believe that the title has meaning. Sid vicious from the sex pistols. Some people believe that he killed his girlfriend.
    Flag NutzyPixeon October 01, 2008   Link

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