I'm gonna miss you
I'm gonna miss you when you're gone
She says, "I love you
I'm gonna miss hearing your songs"

And I said, "Please,
Don't talk about the end
Don't talk about how every living thing goes away"
She said, "Friend,
All along I thought I was learning how to take
How to bend not how to break
How to live not how to cry
But really I've been learning how to die
I've been learning how to die"

Hey everyone
I got nowhere to go
The grave is lazy
He takes our body slow

And I said, "Please,
Don't talk about the end
Don't talk about how every living thing goes away"
She said, "Friend,
All along I thought I was learning how to take
How to bend not how to break
How to laugh not how to cry
But really I've been learning how to die
I've been learning how to die"
Die...Die...
I've been learning how to die


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    This song is pretty cool too

    I think its about how death shouldnt be a taboo subject and how everything on the earth will end...and how we push that thought from our minds...but in the song, its almost like the individual is done kidding with himself and kind of saying "Hey, I am going to die, I'm ok with that fact, and what i have done in my lif iss what helps me learn how to die

    auebelhoron January 17, 2008   Link
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    I believe this song is about two people who came to grip with the "reality" of death.

    One has accepted it, and relizes that judgement is a part of dying, and in order for Christ to live in us, we must first DIE to ourselves. Romans 5:12-14 explains. Therefore we are ALL learning how to die everyday, by the decisions we make.

    The other person is afraid of what comes after death, most likely because they do not believe or know of the salvation God has for us, which all we must do is accept.

    Clever chorus... he portrays the "worlds" view, which is LIVING for the moment, and the "BELIEVER'S" promise... which is LIFE AFTER DEATH!!! Yay YaY!!!!

    Learning how to die.... GENIUS!!!!!!!!

    dmedinaon April 22, 2009   Link
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    The lyric "he takes our body slow" reminds me of Theodore Roethke's poem "The Waking." cs.rice.edu/~ssiyer/minstrels/poems/912.html "I wake to sleep and take my waking slow..."

    Could just be a coincidence, but I don't doubt that Jon Foreman is well-read.

    crystalynn84on July 20, 2008   Link
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    i think that he's defining seperation as death. Not literal death in a physical way, but friendships,relationships we have with others, as people are going different ways and seperating, the bond is dying. As a result we learn to die.

    vermelhoon January 31, 2009   Link
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    I think this song is about dying physically but also mentally.

    Basically it's about *she, a girl who is dreaming and talking about missing the great blessings God has given us to glorify Him, i.e., she'll miss his singing and songs.

    In that, he doesn't want to talk about the end, about death. She reminds him though that daily life is a sacrifice. A death to self and learning to be more like Jesus.

    When we learn how to die to our own desires and wants and know that God's plan is ultimate and to bend and sacrifice and to align our will with God's will for our lives, then that's when we've learned to die.

    jeaniehugheson August 24, 2010   Link
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    I think the song presents a glass half empty/ glass half full paradox. The girl is focused on the negative in life, on how everything only results in death. The speaker however is trying to tell her that there's something more there and that's what we should talk about because even if life only leads to death, we still have life.

    AmoebaFloweron January 01, 2011   Link
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    I think there is an effort to try very hard to give "bigger meaning" to this song when Jon is speaking very simply. No matter our theology or beliefs, the reality of death, literal death, is dismal and difficult. That is why we mourn and grieve. Most of our life is spent in numbness to this and the singer seems to encounter someone who is wide awake to the substance of dying. I don't think there is hidden meaning in it. The fact that we are seeking that here is further evidence of our desire to dodge death and the pain it brings.

    mdierdorffon November 21, 2011   Link

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