The song lyrics were written by the band Van Halen, as they were asked to write a song for the 1979 movie "Over the Edge" starring Matt Dillon. The movie (and the lyrics, although more obliquely) are about bored, rebellious youth with nothing better to do than get into trouble. If you see the movie, these lyrics will make more sense. It's a great movie if you grew up in the 70s/80s you'll definitely remember some of these characters from your own life. Fun fact, after writing the song, Van Halen decided not to let the movie use it.
He and I; had something beautiful
But so dysfunctional it couldn't last
Loved him so, but I let him go
'Cause I knew he'd never love me back
Such pain as this shouldn't have to be experienced
I'm still reeling from the loss, still a little bit delirious
Near to you, I am healing but it is taking so long
'Cause though he's gone and you are wonderful, it's hard to move on
Yeah, I'm better near to you
With you and I, it's something different
I'm enjoying it cautiously
I'm battle scarred; I am workin' oh-so hard to get
Back to who I used to be
He's disappearing, fading steadily
When I'm so close to being yours
Won't you stay with me, please?
'Cause near to you, I am healing but it is taking so long
'Cause though he's gone and you are wonderful, it's hard to move on
Yet I'm better near to you
Yeah, I'm better near to you
I only know that I am better where you are
I only know that I am better where you are
I only know that I belong where you are
Near to you, I am healing but it is taking so long
Though he's gone and you are wonderful, it's hard to move on
Near to you, I am healing but it is taking so long
'Cause though he's gone and you are wonderful, it's hard to move on
Yeah, I'm better near to you
Yeah, I'm better near to you
But so dysfunctional it couldn't last
Loved him so, but I let him go
'Cause I knew he'd never love me back
Such pain as this shouldn't have to be experienced
I'm still reeling from the loss, still a little bit delirious
Near to you, I am healing but it is taking so long
'Cause though he's gone and you are wonderful, it's hard to move on
Yeah, I'm better near to you
With you and I, it's something different
I'm enjoying it cautiously
I'm battle scarred; I am workin' oh-so hard to get
Back to who I used to be
He's disappearing, fading steadily
When I'm so close to being yours
Won't you stay with me, please?
'Cause near to you, I am healing but it is taking so long
'Cause though he's gone and you are wonderful, it's hard to move on
Yet I'm better near to you
Yeah, I'm better near to you
I only know that I am better where you are
I only know that I am better where you are
I only know that I belong where you are
Near to you, I am healing but it is taking so long
Though he's gone and you are wonderful, it's hard to move on
Near to you, I am healing but it is taking so long
'Cause though he's gone and you are wonderful, it's hard to move on
Yeah, I'm better near to you
Yeah, I'm better near to you
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Near to You Lyrics as written by Alison Loren Sudol Alison Sudol
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I'm not sure what to think of this song. Some of the words chosen kind of make me question whether she really is even getting over the old guy. This can be a weakness - she's trying to express an easy-to-relate to feeling but she's doing an imperfect job of it. Some examples I use:
Verse 1: "He and I had something, BEAUTIFUL..." Verse 2: "You and I, have something, DIFFERENT..." Of all the words she could have chosen, she said "different." Granted, after beautiful", few adjectives would make it sound as good as the first, but "different"?! "Being with him was beautiful. You and I, are, uh, different..." Unless directly comparing it to something bad, "different" is never a good word...It's often a euphemism, or a substitute for when a fitting positive adjective can't be found.
Point 2: Verse two "...and I’m ENJOYING IT." Not sure that’s a good way to put it in any right (don't get me wrong, Alison Sudol is a great lyricist, probably better than I'll ever be, but I think this line doesn't quite work). Enjoying makes it sound so casual and detached.
Point 3: When describing the old guy, she talks about how "she loved him so," how it was "beautiful" as seen above. When describing the new guy, it’s all "I'm enjoying it, it's different, you're wonderful." The old guy seems like "love," the new guy seems like "a relationship." With the old guy, there was naturally something there and she cut it off to save herself. The new guy seems like the kind of guy girls would want to go out with, a Mr. perfect if you will, and therefore is seen as a good replacement. If the girl truly feels it with the new guy and is merely healing from the wounds of the other guy (as opposed to still loving him and forcing a new relationship), I don't think it should seem as though the new relationship is forced.
Rebuttal point: One can say that the bridge, about how she declares, "I only know that I belong Where you are" that it is a serious and deep declaration of affection for the new guy. While the sincerity can be debated, I will give them that the line is at least consistent with that idea.
Overall, I am not as impressed with the lyrics of this song as I am with most other AFF songs, at least if the song is simply about the girl moving on but still being wounded, as stated in the posts above. However, I have an alternate hypothesis that, if true, would change everything...
Ok, so, as I said above, I feel this song does an imperfect job of expressing the commonly held views of the song as said above. However, that is assuming that the views of previous posters are what the song is really about (I am not criticizing the posts above; their views make perfect sense and honestly are more likely to be right than what I'm about to propose, but hear me out).
I propose that the song may actually be more complex than we give it credit for. I gave reasons above why it doesn't do a good job of convincing us the girl is sincere. Maybe she's not supposed to be...
Maybe, we are supposed to hear the song and think, "I don't think the girl is sincere about getting over the other guy." Maybe the song is directed not at the new guy but at herself.
Just as the motif of somebody getting over a past love with a new one is common in both life and art, so is another; the theme of people avoiding true love because they've been hurt by that person, and their futile attempts to move on with someone else, somebody "on the rebound" if you will. Maybe she talks about how much she loved the other guy not to give context of how things were, but rather as a hint that this is still how she feels. This would explain why the new guy is complemented often yet looked upon somewhat coldly. Her declarations of "I belong where you are" could very well be her way of demanding of herself "He's good, you should love him!"
After all, the old guy was a dick, and the new guy is probably sweet, sensitive, loving, whatever it is she is looking for. She left the old guy because he rejected her, and wants to convince herself she is improving and will eventually be happy with the new guy.
In short, maybe it’s supposed to sound phony. That’s not to say that she isn't convinced that she is sincere, but people can be quite good at fooling themselves and convincing themselves they feel differently than they do (although this tends to eventually unfold, both in life and in art...believe me I've been there). If this were a movie, we might expect the new guy to eventually question her, and when she says “we have something different” and “I’m enjoying it” he would tell her that he loves her but that she needs to ask herself if its him she really loves.
The fact that the words chosen do a poor job of convincing me the girl is sincere would therefore be a strength in this case; she's SUPPOSED to be insincere. If that’s the case, my opinion of this song would change from me finding it “superficial” and “hard to take seriously” to “excellent,” “clever,” and “in a whole ‘nother realm.” If that is the case, BRAVO!
Note: I use the term love” loosely. True love is the kind of thing that happens once in a lifetime. As used in my post, love can mean as little as the serious and deep infatuation that is often confused with the real deal.
Also, despite my somewhat harsh criticism of this song (in post #1), I believe Alison Sudol is an amazing singer and songwriter. In fact, One Cell In The Sea is one of my all-time favorite albums (along with the likes of Metallica’s “Master of Puppets”; I’m not called MetalSandman999 for nothing).
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could the "new" guy possibly be just a friend? thats how i relate to this song. like the girl is getting over all this emotional baggage of a breakup or whatever and she is leaning on a friend for support. i know i feel better when im near my friends. any girl would agree that a really good friendship between her and a boy is special because its hard to find really good guy friends. so maybe the girl is getting over someone and she is turning to her guy-friend (something different).
So many good comments here. And metalsandman - i agree with you about how the adjectives, verbs could be a little better... unless... the lyricist really does mean them to be so "different".
Allow me to throw a new idea into the ring: I don't think the lyrics make the new relationship seem "forced" so to speak, but instead, convey her apprehensiveness to opening up to someone new. I think when she calls her new relationship "different", she is not discrediting the new guy - but realizing the differences in the old and new... and yet... "enjoying it". Maybe enjoying isn't such a bad verb - maybe she wasn't sure if she would enjoy a relationship of a different nature and is proud to say that she is.
I think that's what the song is about - the transition of letting an ex go and accepting someone else into your life. To illustrate, let me plug in my own experience here, and tell me if you can see how this song coincides.
My first love and I were the best of friends for years, very close, but we were always off and on when it came to dating. Our relationship (when in session) was fun, restless, spontaneous, innocent, energetic, loving, passionate - like you see in the movies. Running naked through a field, watching the sun come up, snowball fights, moon-lit walks and heart to hearts, sweet whispers, staring contests, telling eachother our dreams, skinny-dipping, laying in silence together, lauging til our sides split - sounds perfect, right?
Well it was to me anyway. It was "beautiful", but it was also "dysfunctional". We're talking years of being off and on dating - never because we hated eachother, but I blame commitment-phobia. Finally, I'll admit... I was the first to start wanting to settle down. "Fall in love... yadi yada yada". Not a conscious thing, but just felt myself settling (in how I thought, the choices I would make, etc). And who had i always thought of myself settling down with? You got it... except... he wasn't ready. I held on for so long, falling more and more in love, silently thinking I could sway him to want to settle down with me... but...long story short - he still wanted to be a free-spirit. The hurt was so deep that I had to break all contact with him and found out through a stranger that he moved away shortly after. That was over a year ago. Our story was so unique and so long and so deep and so perfect in my eyes. That when it didn't have the perfect ending, I was CRUSHED.
My boyfriend now is the one who followed. When we started going out, I compared everything he did to my ex. I still wasn't over him. In some ways, I don't think I ever will be. But I am happy again and open to love again and it took time and a lot of patience on his part (like in this song). :) My boyfriend is so "different" from my ex - but I've grown to love the differences. He is more mature, more stable, more confident in things my ex wasn't, and vice versa. He loves me and has no problem saying things like, "maybe next year we'll..." or just "we or us" in the future tense about anything! But My boyfriend now would never run naked through a field with me. But he would talk politics with me all night. My boyfriend now doesn't really like fishing. But he loves taking me and teaching me sailing. My boyfriend now won't go running with me. But he will spend $10 more a month so we can work out together at his gym. My boyfriend now wouldn't want to dance with me in the living room. But he would buy me this CD and let me listen to it while he cooks me dinner. :)
I still miss my ex sometimes (especially after writing all this) but I have grown to love someone new finally. And he loves me back !All those things I loved about my ex are now dear memories. My boyfriend is nothing like my ex, but his differences, while scary and strange to me at first, are now beautiful and dear to me as well. And he loves the cooky things about me too.
And now I can say to him "I only know that I belong where you are". :)
when i read your post, i freaked out, because my story is EXACTLY the same. like bizarrely so. and i also relate to this song, and it always reminds me of my ex inthe back of my mind. (the only difference is that my new boyfriend is my ex's best friend...well they arent really best friends anymore haha.) i seriously cant get over your post though..like its the same down to the cute things you said you guys used to go. And my new boyfriend is much more stable, but also less creative and spontaneous. Like you said, he wont dance with me in the living room, but he would buy me the cd. Me and my ex would dance in the parking lot of the gas station waiting for his tank to fill up, he'd play guitar while i sang songs we wrote, we'd watch sunsets from all differnt spots, he'd give me piggyback rides when my feet hurt from my favorite heels, he made me crazy paintings, he built me a cardboard castle and gave me a tiara so i could be a princess for a day. My new boyfriend is amazing, but a little more cliche. I love him, but he is more the make me cute cds, go out to dinner, hold hands and talk all night. We go to the movies without feeling compelled to dress up like the characters and act like them all night, he knocks on the door rather than throwing rocks at my window. However, my new boyfriend also doesn;y get irrationally jealous and possessive, or make me cry because he is so unstable. But I always relate this song to me.
I completely agree with the idea that the word 'different' isn't used in a negative way. When I hear the song, it perfectly describes my situation right now. <br /> <br /> Earlier this year, my 1st boyfriend and I broke up for the 3rd and last time in 2 years. I had kept clinging to what I thought we had- as time went on, I realized that our relationship was completely unequal and toxic. I was in complete denial, but like she says 'I loved him so but I let him go/Cause I knew he'd never love me back.' He had never cared as deeply for me as I had for him.<br /> <br /> A while later, I started dating my current boyfriend. He'd been after me since before my ex and I had even started dating. And he is truly 'wonderful.' He's kind, passionate, takes care of me, and is just over all... amazing. <br /> <br /> But despite it all, I sometimes still wonder what his motives are; I've been so damaged by my ex into thinking that everything comes with a price to pay- that the happiness I feel with my boyfriend isn't just natural and he's playing me to get what he wants. <br /> <br /> I had- and in someway still have- a lot of trouble moving on, but I know it's something that needs to happen because what I have with my boyfriend is so much better. There's none of the lies, none of the broken promises, no twisting of my heart in pain when I look at him, no fear of him, no crying myself to sleep every night. Just simple, endless love, passion, and care. That's what makes it different, and that what I love about our relationship- and about him.
Somehow, I can relate... <br /> There was this boy.. my first love, first everything.. <br /> ''He and I; had something beautiful<br /> But so dysfunctional it couldn't last..'' <br /> It was this crazy, sick, love triangle. I'm not proud of that, I didn't meant to hurt anyone, I just loved him. I thought I was better for him, and that how it seemed to be. He loved her too, she was his first love, but they were so unhappy. They couldn't function anymore. She also hurt him a lot. Somehow, I wanted to help him heal from her and all hard things in his life.. At moments it seemed possible. He wanted to try, then he couldn't, but he still wanted me in his life. And I couldn't let it go. It was so hard, so wrong, but so beautiful at the same time. But we all get fu*ked up in that triangle. He hurt me a lot. He didn't know what he wanted, he was complicated, saying goodbye, then turning back.. It made me insane. He finally left here. He called me. He told me he needs time and space, but that he cares and wants me in his life. I really believed that we could make it. At least as friends. I really wanted him in my life. But, we couldn't. He needed time, space, he stop calling, he said I'm asking too much, maybe I did. But he keep on repeating he cares, and wants me in his life. And after a while I found out he met someone else, which hurt me even more.. He wasn't able to admit that to me by himself. He said she was different from both of us, she don't want to tie him, and I don't know... I let him go. I decided that we won't be even friends, although he wanted to, 'cause he always cared, and appreciated me. I couldn't... I don't know anymore if he really loved me, or anyone of us. But I still remember all our beautiful moments... He used to say, we met in such a wrong time and space. He wished it was in different time. Maybe we could function.. but... <br /> I'm still alone, but there is this guy.. He is there for some time, trying, but I haven't gave him a chance.. like any other before. He is different, he is great.. but, he is not HIM. Then I ask myself, why would you even wanted someone like HIM? And I'm afraid. And I don't know.. I'm probably missing a good chance. Like HE missed that one with me. <br /> But this song hits me so hard!<br /> I don't know why am I talking about this here, to you.. You have your own life.. I felt this kind of need. I understand you.. and I' glad you are happy again with that new guy. That gives me hope and strenght to move on.. I hope I'll make it.. <br /> Thank you.
Twilight:
BELLA TO JACOB
Makes you want to cry a little bit doesn't it, team werewolf?
YES! the first time i heard this i was like BELLA AND JACOB! i was suprised they didnt have it on the twilight soundtrack, it was pretty dead on.
new moon. if it's not on the soundtrack, i'm filing a complaint. :)
i agreee is should be on the new moon soundtrack<br /> !!!
that song was absolutely beautiful.<br /> <br /> pop it,<br /> why would you be team werewolf? First of all those team things are weird... second of all there are alot of things wrong with jacob.<br /> <br /> 1.he gets angry to easily<br /> 2.he is a jerk as a werewolf <br /> 3.he gloats and shows off way to much<br /> 4.he left at the end of eclipse for his own selfish reasons<br /> 5.sure he was there for Bella when Edward left, but he made Edward seem so horrible when Edward left to keep Bella safe from the dangers of vampires<br /> 6.he was extremely rude at Bella and Edward's wedding<br /> 7.he was ripping Bella and Edward apart only to find out he was meant to be with Reneesme (Bella and Edward's half human half vampire daughter).<br /> <br /> so if you going to be on a team, be on team Edward.
You guys, all of you, are so right! The first time I listened to this song I was like, Oh wow that's Jacob and Bella's song for New Moon! I think Almost Lover is Edward and Bella's song when he leaves her, too!<br /> Team Edward, Team Bella, all the way!<br /> I am such a Twilight Nerd!
candid lyrics...most of a fine frenzy's are.
pop_it, I TOTALLY feel you.
Ooh MadnessMethod 'Almost Lover' is another great one for those two. I'm so torn between Jacob and Edward :(
I feel that Metalsandman999's 2nd post is dead on. Since she sings "I'm better new to you" and "You are wonderful" so many times...repeating over and over throughout the song, it seems as if she is trying to convince herself. Like if she repeats it enough, it will be true. Probably wondering why it's so hard to get over such a dysfunctional relationship when she has something good in front of her, even though she might not totally want it.
sorry about the typos "I'm better near to you" yadda yadda yadda