Here's a story of an honest man losing religion
Climbing the pulpit steps before an eager congregation
Then while praying came a wicked inspiration
Brothers, sisters, this is what he said:

[Chorus:]
Dearly beloved, dearly beloved, dearly beloved
(Make no mistake, despite our traits I've seldom seen)
I can't relate to you (I can't relate to you), I can't relate to you

He was the kind of guy who'd always go right out of his way
But more before the crazy notion leapt right into his head
And stubbornly crept into every mad perception
I can't deny a funny feeling when he said:

[Chorus]

Dearest in memoriam, set phasers to stun
And grab yourself a neighbor's skeleton to lean upon
Did you know him in life - one filled with regret
So soon we all forget we ever met

Do you know my name; sing a light refrain
For a man estranged; I won't deny that I'm inclined to isolate

Dearly beloved, dearly beloved, dearly beloved (I can't relate)
I can't relate to you
(I can't relate to you)
I can't relate to you
(I can't relate to you)
I can't relate to you
(I can't relate to you)
I can't relate to you



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Track duration: 02:37

"Dearly Beloved" as written by Greg/gurewitz Graffin

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    My Interpretation:i personally think this song might be greg graffin no longer being able to relate to the punk scene and wanting to move on.
    Flag AtheistMantison January 29, 2012   Link
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    General Comment:I think the meaning has already gotten pinpointed, but I tend to think that in addition to distancing himself from his friends/congregation/societal group, he committed suicide because of the estrangement. Usage of "dearly beloved," "in memoriam," "did you know him in life" could be metaphoric, but the feeling I get from the song is he actually died. And after that it's especially easy for people to forget they ever met. Kind of like the excuse they were waiting for.
    Flag apeirophobiaon January 23, 2011   Link
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    General Comment:honestly, I think that all these posts are circulating around the common theme, but none of you have
    it specifically correct.

    My first thought when reading over it was it being about a priest, preacher, pastor, or minister, or
    whatnot... slowly doubting the connections he shares with the congregation... and to a stunning
    discovery of this, he feels more and more incredibly distant from these people that he speaks out to..

    The "pulpit" is the obvious clue that its about a religious leader or something close

    like a post above said... he's beginning to doubt whether or not these people even see him for who he
    is.. and eventually he needs to depart from these people... and isolate.

    I'm pretty sure that's as close as it gets from what the lyrics give, despite any references the
    writer is making implicitly that we don't know about..

    Now, I'll go out on a limb here, just a thought..

    It could be a story about the backround of the life of the Preacher in "The grapes of Wrath."
    Its feasible since this album makes references to the book. The Preacher was a character, that the main character Tom met again walking home after he got out of jail. Tom was a child when the preacher was serving the church, and now Tom runs across him once again when he's grown up. The preacher had abandoned the parish a while back, for seemingly the same reason this song depicts. And so the preacher formed a companionship with Tom and ventured with him and the Joad family out to California....
    Flag pinkfadeon August 23, 2009   Link
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    My Opinion:while i quite like the meaning we have derived, i'm still nagged by the line spoken in the background during the first chorus. It seems to me that the person realizes they are different from the rest of the people, and by a lot. Like the pastor/minister/reverend/etc. of a very religious church suddenly has an epiphany: there is no God. All of the sudden, he has realized that he doesn't belong here, he needs to get out of this.
    Flag tedweirdon January 27, 2009   Link
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    General Comment:mrsquare has this nailed, it's about mutual isolation between the disillusioned man and his former colleagues. it's not specifically about relgion, though that is the best example as Greg tends to write about atheism and flaws in religious beliefs (kind of a reference to himiself as well really).
    Flag thezinseattleon September 24, 2008   Link
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    General Comment:This song rules! it reminds me of "Shattered Faith". I am an honest man losing religion.
    Flag tjtech12on July 24, 2008   Link
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    General Comment:Well said Square nad Avarant!!! My feelings exactly
    Flag sage_of_lighton November 10, 2007   Link
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    General Comment:to elaborate on what mr.square is saying, I read an interview lately from Greg, and Brett and the rest, and they mentioned that this album is more introspection into themselves versus, the normal looking outward. I think Square is totally right, but I think that possibly the group he's referring to is society in general.

    mainly, that moment you finally separate yourself from the herd and figure out that lemmings running through their life with prescribed futures isn't for everyone, or really anyone.
    Flag Avaranton October 11, 2007   Link
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    General Comment:Best song on the album.
    Although manicspike has the meaning almost pinned, this group the protagonist is leaving and slowly becoming more isolated from could indeed be a religion as the song states, or just a gang of people holding commonly held beliefs. It's hammering home the same point as 'Lost Pilgrim', that in our apparent 'liberal' societies, for the most part if you break away from the mainstream beliefs then you are cast out as a pariah. Whether or not you are happy with this decision may vary, because the beliefs that the group held could seem completely wrong or irrelevant to you, but take a Christian parish as an example. You were raised your entire life in a small town to a religious education and parents, and all of a sudden as a young adult you begin to question all of the things that your entire life you were told 'just were'. (Probably in some part due to listening to Bad Religion...) After this, you can never look on the same group of people you have grown up with the same way again, whether or not they still accept you, because in your heart you believe what they are doing is wrong, and in their hearts they believe that what you are doing is wrong. The social situation of any group is completely changed when a few, or just a single member of a tight group starts to think autonomously and question their common beliefs.
    Flag mrsquareon October 06, 2007   Link
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    General Comment:no guys, this is not about religion. you guys open yer eyes - dont take religion literally. bad religion almost always uses religion as a metaphor. manicspike hit the nail on the head.

    originally i actually thought the song was about politicians and other leaders who pretend to be able to associate and sympathize with the masses by claiming to be one of them. it seems like manicspike's analysis fits better though.
    Flag nyghtcrawleron September 16, 2007   Link

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