I'd arrest you if I had handcuffs I'd arrest you if I had the time I'd throw you down in the back seat As if you'd committed a terrible crime I'd break in a town's worth of houses And rob whole families blind I'd do it to you like you do it to me If you knew you would get away fine I'd drown all these crying babies If I knew that their mothers wouldn't cry I'd hold them down and I'd squeeze real soft To let a piece of myself die It's hard to be the better man When you forget you're trying It's hard to be the better man I'd arrest you if I had handcuffs I'd arrest you if I had time I'd wait for you outside the courtroom Taunting when all your appeals were declined I'd drive my car off of a bridge If I knew that you weren't inside With a pedal to the floor who could ask for more A fantastic way to kill some time And you could lay on your back and be beaten You could put up your fists and fight You could try and be way up Way up, way up, way up Way up, way up, way up It's hard be the better man When you forget you're trying It's hard to be the better man When you're still lying It's hard to be the better man When you forget you're trying It's hard to be the better man When you're still lying, you're still lying



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"Handcuffs" as written by Vincent Accardi

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    General Comment:this song would be amazing for the ending credits of a movie
    Flag ldrthbmbson May 15, 2013   Link
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    General Comment:I think this song is about accusal, and accusing people of things before knowing the whole story. And the lines about "it's hard to be the better man" is like saying you have to keep your cool and prove your innocence, rather than lash out in a way that will only perpetuate people's judgments and assumptions that you are guilty of a crime. It's like the song is saying, "I know you committed this crime because I would commit this crime if I knew I wouldn't get caught, and you didn't think you'd get caught, which is why you did it." If this makes sense.
    Flag suchaxsuckeron April 23, 2013   Link
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    General Comment:to me, in a short, simple version, it's about doing all the things you would do if you there were no consequences. no jail, no crime, no pain, no suffering, for you and everyone involved. all the dark, terrible things ANYONE would do if it weren't looked down on.
    Flag thrwmyhrtawy.on October 20, 2012   Link
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    My Interpretation:This song was always incredibly powerful to me. I heard it during the darkest period of my life yet and there was one line that resonated with me particularly hard.

    "I'd drive my car off of a bridge, if I knew that you weren't inside."

    The meaning in this, at least for me, was that I was ready to end my life via this exact means save for the fact that I could not get over a girl. Like 'the' girl, the love of your life girl. I felt like I would be doing something terrible to her because I knew she'd hear. As far as my mind could reason, she would have been there with me.

    I'm glad I didn't, looking back on it. We're together now and I've never been more satisfied with my life.
    Flagged atruminrituson September 20, 2012   Link
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    My Interpretation:I think the message is pretty clear in this song. It's about what we as a society have become. It lists a lot of pretty horrible acts similar to what we see or hear on a daily basis. We see the media awaiting the next death sentence victim, because that's the kind of stories we like to hear. We love seeing other people suffer. We are attracted to the drama and discontent of others. It's sad, but that's where the ratings come from. On some level I think it also addresses how corrupt our judicial system is. If a cop has the desire and the time, he can arrest you. Finally, Jesse realizes he is a part of this society and he (like any of us) has performed his fair share of non-altruistic thoughts and actions...
    Flag Stellar1024on April 17, 2012   Link
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    My Interpretation:It sounds like he's singing to the part(s) of himself that he hates and wishes he didn't have. The 'you' isn't about a girl or anything cliched like that, but simply himself.

    "I'd arrest you if I had handcuffs
    I'd arrest you if I had the time"
    These lines that he keeps repeating basically sound to me like he's saying that he'd stop the 'negative' part of who he is, be it the characteristics of lying (which he mentions a lot), being cold or mean, etc. All of the attributes of himself that he wish he didn't have. This 'demonic' side of him is personified throughout the song which makes it sound like he's talking about someone else.

    "I’d throw you down in the backseat
    As if you committed a terrible crime"

    Probably using an allegory or metaphor of sorts to describe how he'd proceed to 'arrest' his negative side.

    "We break into towns worth of houses
    And rob whole families blind
    I’d do it to you like you do it to me
    If I knew you would get away fine"

    He's giving an extreme example of a crime, robbing towns of families, and mentioning how he'd act the same way his negative side does (do it to you like you do it to me). The last line denotes attachment and feeling for this dark side because it is still part of him, even though he hates it.

    "I’d drown all these crying babies
    If I knew that there mothers wouldn’t cry
    I’d hold them down and I’d squeeze real soft
    And let a piece of myself die"

    This is a very powerful verse. I interpret this as atonement.. saying how, if the mothers wouldn't cry (he'd be still considered 'good') he'd drown the babies to remove the dark side of him.. as if by doing something as horrid as drowning babies would almost cancel out the demon in him or something. Or that it would be so evil it would cross over the other side and disappear.

    "It’s hard to be the better man
    When you forget you’re trying
    It’s hard to be the better man"

    This is pretty self explanatory.. It's hard to be a better man when the negative side of him is being ignorant to the attempt of trying.

    "I’d arrest you if I had handcuffs
    I’d arrest you if I had the time
    I’d wait for you outside the courtroom
    Taunting as your appeals were declined"

    His feelings towards the dark side of him become more aggressive now..

    "I’d drive my car off of the bridge
    If I knew that you weren’t inside
    Put the petal to the floor, who could ask for more
    A fantastic way to kill some time"

    Then he seems to express concern for it, saying how he could just get rid of himself as long as his dark side wasn't there and was safe. I love how it sounds like he's going through an emotional roller-coaster while trying to figure out and make sense of how he actually feels about who he is.. switching between hate and compassion for his internal devil.

    "And you could lay on your back and be beaten
    You could put up your fists and fight
    (You could try anyway)"

    I think what he's saying here is that his negative characteristics could surrender, 'lay on its back' and be smothered, they'd try to fight, but the good side will always prevail.

    "It’s hard to be the better man
    When you forget you’re trying
    It’s hard to be the better man
    When you’re still lying"

    This verse makes me think that the main demons he's addressing are related to lying. I think this part of the song can be taken literally unlike most of the rest. It's hard for him to be a good person when he has this bad side of him that keeps lying. He keeps repeating this, almost like a plea to himself to correct his behavior.

    It's confusing, but extremely creative. I suppose this song ties in quite nicely with the title of the album as well "The Devil and God are raging inside me". Definitely about internal struggles on the grounds of morality, in my opinion.
    Flag honeygloon March 02, 2012   Link
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    General Comment:Wanna talk about it ianisyodaddy? My email is Mssarahbunker@aol.com. Email me.
    Flag mssarahbunkeron November 25, 2011   Link
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    General Comment:This is how i interpreted the lyrics, being somewhat suicidal right now deal with me.

    I think the lyrics are talking about how there are so many thing he would do but he doesn't want to hurt them, Like driving off a bridge if he knew you weren't inside. I would kill myself without a doubt if i knew I wouldn't hurt my parents, or my friends, I feel handcuffed and thats what the lyrics are saying, that he is handcuffed to do the right things when it's so much easier to do the easier things
    Flag ianisyodaddyon October 31, 2011   Link
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    General Comment:Yea, Vin wrote this one. The album is called the devil and god are raging inside of me, so for instance, in these lyrics "I'd drive my car off of a bridge, if I knew that you weren't inside, with the pedal to the floor, who could ask for more? A fantastic way to kill some time." The "you" would be god. And the driving off of a bridge is a symbol of suicide. Suicide is a sin, obviously, which goes back to not doing certain things or acting in a certain manning because God is always watching and you can't sin. Or that God is in the car aka God is always watching over him and God represents the good person that he is and represents keeping him on the right path of life and God is saving him from driving off of a bridge to his death and all of the other bad things. Those are my two cents.
    Flag mssarahbunkeron October 05, 2011   Link
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    My Interpretation:I think this song is about the selfishness everyone has inside them, but the conflicting force of adhering to social norms that makes us act the way we do.

    Especially the line "I'd drive my car off of a bridge if I knew you weren't inside". I think that's a metaphor for wanting to escape life through suicide, but not being able to cause you realize all the hurt that would inflict on your loved ones. In a sense they would be "inside" the car because it would bring them down with you, possibly to the point of suicide themselves.

    That's just my interpretation.
    Flag QuantumCTTSon November 16, 2010   Link

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