aw man this song is awesum. im a youth pastor and i've tried to explain this to so many guys n finally there is a song that jus perfect. it doesnt really relate to me but i hav had heaps of buddies in this situation ;) they fall in 'love' with all these different girls for long periods of time, one breaks there heart so they go back too the other one. back n forth. when really the chick that is probabaly best suited for them is right there in front of them but instead they neva see her or when they think bout it for a sec they do just like the song 'start to compare...' i jus think there is so many of us guys out there doin this and wats gonna happen is like the last part of this song>>>Maybe you want her
Maybe you need her
Maybe you had her
Maybe you lost her to another
To another.

the chick who is probabaly like a close buddy or sumthin is goin to realize that we're gonna go after the same girls who will never love us, she'll lose respect, and then she is gonna fall for sumone else 'maybe you lost her to another' so cum on guys n check out a new perspective :)

lol so so tru blaineandjesus. but it is pretty tru for girls too i must admit. i know that joe wrote it for like a guy or whateva but i still try and learn sumthin from it. us girls do it all the time. chase after the boys who will neva like us. wen the right one is usually right in front of us like a best bud or sumthin. but yeh wowowow i jus luc the fray!! :) :) :)

i LOVE this song. i think its basically...a guy feeling unhappy or bored with his girl, looking for something else..thinking something else would be better. Trying to act like he might not need her, but knows deep down he does. Loveeee these guys.

Blaineandjesus, you're a youth pastor? With bad grammer, spelling, etc.?

There are certain people
You just keep coming back to
She is right in front of you.

Anyway, about the song. I think it's more along the lines of a guy looking for the right girl, but keeps returning to his girl bestfriend (wo possibly likes him).

Looking for the right one
You line up the world to find
Where no questions cross your mind.
But she won't keep on waiting for
You without a doubt
Much longer for you to sort it out.

Then he reliezes his feelings, and gets jealous at her boyfriends...

Maybe you want her
Maybe you need her
Maybe you've started to compare

I think it's a classic unrequited love.

Maybe you want her
Maybe you need her
Maybe you had her
Maybe you lost her to another
To another.

this song is obviously a love song. but to me, it's about losing a best friend to another friend. I feel that way lately. My best friend ditched me for another one of my best friends. ANd doesn't talk to me. I lost her to another.
Sometimes the hardest thing and the right thing are the same.
I need to let it go. But it's hard.

Really I think it means he has this girl thats always there and he likes her for now but when you finally have what you wanted in the first place you suddenly start wondering if there may be something better out there.

i agree with "gilmoreloveee,"

except i think it's about denial,
let's say you liked this girl A LOT, but then things fell apart, and you force yourself to move on, and that's the hardest thing, but the right thing at the same time.
:
And all at once the crowd begins to sing
Sometimes the hardest thing and
The right thing are the same.

But you see that girl in everything and everyone and you compare that girl to everyone else you see
:
Maybe you want her
Maybe you need her
Maybe you started to compare
To someone not there.

and now you can only try and face the fact that she's going to be with someone else, no matter how hard you try, BUT you still try to hold on to that maybe
:
Maybe you want her
Maybe you need her
Maybe you had her
Maybe you lost her to another
To another.

im sorry, but i cant agree with callire, kanzen, or gilmoreloveee

(but this is just an opinion)

to me, i think that this is a song about when you have already dumped/been dumped by a girl (from a guy's point of view) but you realize you were a fool

You begin to wonder
Could you find a better one
Compared to her now

it says compared to her "now." This now shows that you more than likely already dated her, and after you had already dated her and broken up in one of those lulls in the relationship in which the relationship is not as strong as it could be.

Maybe you want her
Maybe you need her
Maybe you had her
Maybe you lost her to another

so now, after realizing you were a fool for dumping her, you also see that someone else is already dating her, and that you cant have her back because you "lost her to another." Th key here is the phrase "maybe you had her," showing that this girl was one you dated previously

(the only reason this is my opinion is because it has proven eerily similar to my life, where i broke up with my gf of 1 yr 3 mo because i wanted more, but then after i had my little 1 month flings, i realized that i was a moron for leaving her. oh wait. whats that? she found a boyfriend and theyve been dating for 2 months with no signs of stopping? well... shit.)

I love this song but it reminds me of O-town. lol
It's a good song never-the-less.

It’s so A typical of human nature to reject a good – but not amazing – person. We all long for person that is always present in other dreams yet gone in real life. By delaying the moment in which you realizes this, you jeopardize the chance you have at this person. The hardest thing is to let go of illusions and return back to reality. Sometimes we need pain to realize the positive aspects of life. Equilibrium is present through every aspect of our lives, it’s just hard balance our ying and yang.

Sometimes the hardest thing and
The right thing are the same.

Is that not the truth or what.
Isaac is amazing.

good song.
relates to me because.
this boy keeps going out with this same girl that treats him like crapp.and i've been by him the whole time.and he doesnt see that im in love with him.and that we woudl be great together.

he just doesn't get it...

I love this song. Reminds me of a very good friend of mine =)

I’ve been listening to this song and singing it in my head all the time these past few days. I keep playing it over in my head, because I’m trying to convince myself to go for a relationship. This song is pretty much the story of my life right now. There is this guy who likes me.. he’s liked me for about 3 years now. I kinda like him too, but, I would feel weird going out with him. I think kinda embarrassed? I’m just scared. I think I’m stopping myself from liking him. But, I’m trying to figure out if I like him or not.. and this song pretty much explains it for me.

“There are certain people
You just keep coming back to
She is right in front of you.
You begin to wonder
Could you find a better one
Compared to her now
She's in question.”

Theres those certain people that you keep liking, even though you won’t get them. Maybe they are taken.. maybe they just aren’t right for you. You are so obsessed with those types of people.. that you don’t even realize that the person for you is right in front of you. You could have them, they are perfect for you… they just might not be the typcial person you would like. You are afraid.. you wonder, if there is a better one out there. You think you could do better. But really.. you can’t. Not that you can’t do better, it’s that, this person is great, there is no need to do better.

”And all at once the crowd begins to sing
Sometimes the hardest thing and
The right thing are the same.”

It would be hard to give this person a chance, because people would think it was weird. And you are afraid.. it would be so hard to give it a try. But, it’s right.

”Maybe you want her
Maybe you need her
Maybe you started to compare
To someone not there.”

Maybe you do want them. You probably need them. But you keep comparing them to the person you think you want. All the things you want in someone. But that person isn’t there. They aren’t real. This one right in front of you is though, so stop comparing them to people who you don’t even have a chance with, because you can have this.

”Looking for the right one
You line up the world to find
Where no questions cross your mind.
But she won't keep on waiting for
You without a doubt
Much longer for you to sort it out.”

You are looking everywhere for that person where you don’t have to question if you like them or not. You don’t want to have to question.. you aren’t sure aobut this person. But, they sure aren’t going to keep waiting for you while you make up your mind wether you are going to give them a chance. They will move on if you don’t make up your mind.. and you will be missing out.

”Maybe you want it
Maybe you need it
Maybe it's all you're running from
Perfection will not come.”

You are scared of what this relationship might bring. It’s so different, that you are scared. So you are running from it. But, nothing is perfect. You aren’t going to find a perfect love.. go for it. Stop running away from them.

”And all at once the crowd begins to sing
Sometimes
We'd never know what's wrong without the pain
Sometimes the hardest thing and
The right thing are the same.”

If you weren’t capable of feeling pain, you would never know anything was wrong. I don’t really understand this one though. I want to…


”Maybe you want her
Maybe you need her
Maybe you had her
Maybe you lost her to another
To another.”

If you don’t go for it, if you don’t stop being scared of what people are gonna think, if you don’t stop running from it.. they are going to give up on you and move on to someone else.

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loooooove. :)

"There are certain people
You just keep coming back to"
i think it's about a person u cant stay away from. no matter how hard u try, no matter what has happened in the past, u keep going back to them.
"Perfection will not come."
maybe the relationship isnt perfect, but that's life. u have to realize that saying the relationship isnt perfect is a rationalization for ending things. you cant rationalize love. it makes you crazy, it makes u irrational. and if u have like this, dont rationalize, dont lose them to someone else.

to me this song is kinda likee, settling for less , but not really that much less, this person "you keep comming back to " is really the person you like, but your always looking for more. and soo you think, i can probably do better, soo you look and search for someone whos better, but you can't find her, soo maybe you do want *her* and you do need *her* and by the end of this song, you already lost her to another, you were too late to go in and get what was right in front of you, the girl thats for you.

the beginning is nice.

one of my fav lines is "somtimes the hardest thing and the right thing are the same"

and also
Maybe you want her
Maybe you need her
Maybe you had her
Maybe you lost her to another

that part.

basically ; to me it tells me the person uve always wanted is right in front of you.

this song actually hit me in the heart when i first heard it. It made me realize that i should let the guy go even though it's hard because he has a girlfriend. I can tell he loves her because she is the one that he keeps running back to, no matter what. I know he wants her and i know he needs her.
but awesome song :D

i really agree with michelle B in the sense that you do reject the good in attempt to find the perfect . however the search is usually in vain as anyone who knows anything realizes a successful relationship takes time and commitment which usually gives you something that you wouldnt trade for anyone anyways about the song I think its got a very catchy hook and the tempo def helps accent the story of giving up a great gurl for the odds and regreting it

"sometimes the hardest thing and the right thing are the same" yeah, that sums up my life pretty nicely.

It means to me, that the person who has been perfect for you all along, is right infront of you, yet you've been searching in all the wrong places on this time. And when you finally realize that they are the perfect one for you, you find out you've waited too long and you've lost her. It's a tragic song, in my eyes.

To me, it's about a guy who falls for this girl. Maybe out of his ego, he wants to find a better girl maybe in looks to impress his friends. Then by the time he's figured it out that he's meant for her all along, she's fed up with waiting and she has moved on and it's just too late.

Well I've been with this guy for 2 years now and we seem to always have these fights and break up and get back together. So this song really makes me think of that. He always has a hard time coming back cause he's scared. He walks away from problems cause it's easier than having to deal with them. He needs to realize that maybe the right thing to do would be to face the problem and take care of it rather than walking away till it gets better. This song reminds me a whole lot of this situation...I wish he'd listen to it...

"sometimes the hardest thing and the right thing are the same"
to me this is like, sometimes it's hard to have to deal with problems, but if you love someone, it's the right thing to do.

"maybe you want her maybe you need maybe you started to compare to someone not there"

sometimes you can really love someone, but when there are problems you start to wish you had someone who you would never argue with ever. But you will never have that.

I agree with what kanzen said.

I was in a situation like that, except with a guy.

This song could mean a lot of different things to different people, the lyrics aren't that clear but the meaning is.