Well, in my opinion this song is about being a young & maybe a little naive &/or introverted girl and finding yourself loving a man who is at first very charming, carefree & outgoing, and seems at first to be without limits, as in
"There was a time
you opened up every doorway
you didn't mind if everything
wasn't your way"
then that man starts to gradually become more introverted & shows their more possessive/obsessive side to you as the relationship progresses, even while they keep up the appearance of being carefree & outgoing to everyone else,
"Don't pull away
that goes against what you told me
I look in your eyes
I realize what you've sold me
is love in a vacuum"
so you confront them about the way they're acting and of course they deny it,
"I think you've changed
but you insist that
that's not true"
quite possibly they are an addict of some sort, my guess would be cocaine, &/or showing very obsessive behavior towards you (early on in the video for this song we see the man hanging a picture up, it is a very large portrait of Aimee & it is prominently displayed in his/their apartment for the duration of the song), thus their "love in a vacuum",
"You look so strange, so distant
that you're hardly you
Now I can see
how you have been acting different
You say it's me
but I know
that it isn't
it's love in a vacuum"
but still you are in love with them and don't want to leave them and you know that they are truly in love with you and they don't want you to leave them either, maybe they are convinced you can save them from themself, maybe they are so broken that the possibility of an overdose &/or suicide attempt is very real and you want to get through to them that their behavior not only dangerous but it is also just pissing you off and if they don't wise up they run the risk of loosing you, as in the lines
"You will be lonely
if you leave me alone", so you want to save them but can't get through to them due to the addiction &/or emotional problems they have,
"Love in a vacuum
and that's not enough
love in a vacuum
You will be lonely
you'll be the only one who feels this way
You will be lonely
if you leave me alone
You will be lonely
you'll be the only one who feels this way
it's just not enough"
you want them to understand that the love they are giving you is not enough when it is filtered through the vacuum of their drug addiction &/or emotional impairment,
"You will be lonely
you'll be the only one who feels this way
it's just not enough
and just wait
you will be lonely
Love in a vacuum
Love in a vacuum
and that's not enough
Love in a vacuum".
'Love In A Vacuum' for me is a hauntingly truthful acute argument on the loneliness of obsession and almost inevitable loss of love that follows people who are broken in some way or another; the obsessives, the coke heads, the drunks, addicts or the just-plain-old emotionally broken; a razor sharp, lyrically driven, deceptively poppy, yet ultimately-depressing-in-the-best-way song.
Quintessential Aimee Mann.
You say you've got the cure
But I don't have a disease
And you say you've got the answers
But I've made no inquiries
And you're failing
Bailing
Good God, motherfucker, now I see you flailing
I see you flailing
That's right I think I do
I see you flailing away
I know it's hard, but so are you
And so am I and we'll pull through, together, together
And I said that it's been years, but I still fear
That someone dear will leave me here forever, forever
And I said, hey, you've got to keep trying
You've got to keep holding onto what you've got
Because what you've got it sure ain't a lot
And hey
Everyone's falling down
Everyone's holding out for what you've got
But what you've got, it sure ain't a lot
And you act like it is, but you know that it's not
And even if it was, would you ever give it up?
If I told you what you had was really nothing?
Nothing?
Nothing?
Yes, it's nothing
Nothing at all
So you say your life's a bore
And I can't quite disagree
If you judge your life by the pieces of shit that inhabit your TV
Because they stand so proud, and they talk too loud
And every other word is a lie
I've found that everyone who is anyone is a waste of time
A waste of time
I know it's hard, but so are you
And so am I and we'll pull through together, together
And I said that it's been years but I still fear
That someone dear will leave me here forever, forever
And I said, hey, you've got to keep trying
You've got to keep holding onto what you've got
Because what you've got it sure ain't a lot
And hey
Everyone's falling down
Everyone's holding out for what you've got
But what you've got, it sure ain't a lot
And you act like it is, but you know that it's not
And even if it was, would you ever give it up?
If I told you what you had was really nothing?
Nothing?
Nothing?
Yes, it's nothing
Nothing at all
Nothing
You won't say nothing
You don't say nothing
And that's just fine
Nothing
You won't say nothing
You don't say nothing
And that's just fine
[Repeat: x3]
Sticks and stones may break my bones
But names will never hurt me
And it's been years, but still I fear that someday they'll desert me
Oh, it's hard, I know
When it's time to stand alone
And no one understands you
But I don't have a disease
And you say you've got the answers
But I've made no inquiries
And you're failing
Bailing
Good God, motherfucker, now I see you flailing
I see you flailing
That's right I think I do
I see you flailing away
I know it's hard, but so are you
And so am I and we'll pull through, together, together
And I said that it's been years, but I still fear
That someone dear will leave me here forever, forever
And I said, hey, you've got to keep trying
You've got to keep holding onto what you've got
Because what you've got it sure ain't a lot
And hey
Everyone's falling down
Everyone's holding out for what you've got
But what you've got, it sure ain't a lot
And you act like it is, but you know that it's not
And even if it was, would you ever give it up?
If I told you what you had was really nothing?
Nothing?
Nothing?
Yes, it's nothing
Nothing at all
So you say your life's a bore
And I can't quite disagree
If you judge your life by the pieces of shit that inhabit your TV
Because they stand so proud, and they talk too loud
And every other word is a lie
I've found that everyone who is anyone is a waste of time
A waste of time
I know it's hard, but so are you
And so am I and we'll pull through together, together
And I said that it's been years but I still fear
That someone dear will leave me here forever, forever
And I said, hey, you've got to keep trying
You've got to keep holding onto what you've got
Because what you've got it sure ain't a lot
And hey
Everyone's falling down
Everyone's holding out for what you've got
But what you've got, it sure ain't a lot
And you act like it is, but you know that it's not
And even if it was, would you ever give it up?
If I told you what you had was really nothing?
Nothing?
Nothing?
Yes, it's nothing
Nothing at all
Nothing
You won't say nothing
You don't say nothing
And that's just fine
Nothing
You won't say nothing
You don't say nothing
And that's just fine
[Repeat: x3]
Sticks and stones may break my bones
But names will never hurt me
And it's been years, but still I fear that someday they'll desert me
Oh, it's hard, I know
When it's time to stand alone
And no one understands you
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what the hell are you talking about "this my least favorite song"... it IS my favorite it makes me feel so good and so much good memories comes to my mind when I listen to this song. I really like it