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In every heart there is a room
A sanctuary safe and strong
To heal the wounds from lovers past
Until a new one comes along
I spoke to you in cautious tones
You answered me with no pretense
And still I feel I said too much
My silence is my self defense
And every time I've held a rose
It seems I only felt the thorns
And so it goes, and so it goes
And so will you soon I suppose
But if my silence made you leave
Then that would be my worst mistake
So I will share this room with you
And you can have this heart to break
And this is why my eyes are closed
It's just as well for all I've seen
And so it goes, and so it goes
And you're the only one who knows
So I would choose to be with you
That's if the choice were mine to make
But you can make decisions too
And you can have this heart to break
And so it goes, and so it goes
And you're the only one who knows.
A sanctuary safe and strong
To heal the wounds from lovers past
Until a new one comes along
I spoke to you in cautious tones
You answered me with no pretense
And still I feel I said too much
My silence is my self defense
And every time I've held a rose
It seems I only felt the thorns
And so it goes, and so it goes
And so will you soon I suppose
But if my silence made you leave
Then that would be my worst mistake
So I will share this room with you
And you can have this heart to break
And this is why my eyes are closed
It's just as well for all I've seen
And so it goes, and so it goes
And you're the only one who knows
So I would choose to be with you
That's if the choice were mine to make
But you can make decisions too
And you can have this heart to break
And so it goes, and so it goes
And you're the only one who knows.
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I admire and respect the man, and he's probably my favorite artist of all time, but even I can admit that he isn't exactly known for his fidelity.
He does state in interviews that this about Elle however, and they didn't start (publicly) dating until he was divorced from Elizabeth.
"My silence is my self-defense" and "But if my silence made you leave"
"In every heart there is a room
A sanctuary safe and strong
To heal the wounds from lovers past
Until a new one comes along"
This first stanza is not exactly an intro, but a synopsis of the song. The last two lines suggest that the narrator is going through a breakup.
I guess the reason why I'm writing this is because, like everyone else here, I relate to this song and cry to it. I've been with someone for more than half a year now, and after this summer we're probably breaking up because of college/distance.
"I spoke to you in cautious tones
You answered me with no pretense
And still I feel I said too much
My silence is my self defense"
This part really speaks to me. When we talked about this inevitable situation, he really "answered with no pretense." And for me, I draw back in silence because I'm always too afraid to speak out my feelings. It's almost as if speaking them out is confronting my feelings, which will lead to more tears and pain.
"So I would choose to be with you
That's if the choice were mine to make
But you can make decisions too
And you can have this heart to break"
This part always makes me cry the hardest. I feel that since I'm the one staying, and he the one leaving..he feels more comfortable ending the relationship, because he's moving on to something new and exciting. It is really up to him to decide how this relationship will play out in the end, and I think the narrator here feels the same way. Just waiting for the verdict.
If you actually read through all this, thank you, and this song is really therapeutic for me.
A sanctuary safe and strong, (A place of healing and safety from heart break)
To heal the wounds of lovers past, (It is a place of recovery from past heart break)
Until a new one comes a long, (Until a new lover comes along)
I spoke to you (new lover) in cautious tone, (I was scared to tell you about myself)
You answered me with no pretense, (You answered me without pretending to love me)
But still i fear ive said to much, (Im afraid ive told you to much about my self)
My silence is my self defense, (Being quiet is the only way to keep from being hurt again)
And every time ive held a rose, (every time that ive had love)
It seems ive only felt the thorns, (its seems ive always gotten hurt)
And so it goes, and so it goes, (And so it leaves me)
And so will you soon i suppose, (Im guessing you will leave me heart broken like every one else has)
But if my silence made you leave, (If my insecurity made you leave me)
Then that would be my worst mistake, (Then i could miss out on true love)
So i will share this room with you, (So you can enter my place of refuge)
And you can have this heart to break, (And you can break my heart)
And this is why my eyes are closed, (This is why i cant see if you will hurt me)
Its just as well for all ive seen, (Its because ive seen alot of people who love me and leave me)
And so it goes and so it goes, (And it continues)
But your the only one who knows, (You are the first person ive told this to)
So i will choose to be with you, (I will trust you)
As if the choice were mine to make, (As if I could resist you)
But you can make decisions too, (But you can do what you want to me)
And you can have this heart to break, (And you can break my heart)
This song not only touches on heart break but it touches on the effects of heart break. After a heart is broken the person tends to be more cautious, and to say the least timid, about trusting another person. But the previous lover masked them selves so well that there is no way for a person with a broken heart to tell the difference between someone trying to hurt them or love them. So after a while the person with a broken heart will surrender his/her defense and just give in to anyone that seems suitable. Giving that person the chance to break there heart once more.
-Anthony Johnson
What a piece life this song is!