A good song about a man being determined to prove himself to a woman, no matter what other people think. Your friends are important but they should not control your life. People often tell you not to abandon your friends because of a relationship, however, I've seen the opposite happen. Jealous, possessive friends did not want another friend to have a partner/spouse.
A good song about a man being determined to prove himself to a woman, no matter what other people think. Your friends are important but they should not control your life. People often tell you not to abandon your friends because of a relationship, however, I've seen the opposite happen. Jealous, possessive friends did not want another friend to have a partner/spouse.
Someone made a comment about the relationship between the narrator and God. I feel that I am "out in the cold" regarding religion/spirituality. I am no longer a conservative Christian, but I am not an atheist (contrary to popular belief, "ex-Christian" does not automatically mean "atheist"). There are intolerant, arrogant people on both sides, who try to convince others that their way is the only correct way. I guess I consider myself to be something like agnostic deist or ietsist...but I am never quite sure.
Someone made a comment about the relationship between the narrator and God. I feel that I am "out in the cold" regarding religion/spirituality. I am no longer a conservative Christian, but I am not an atheist (contrary to popular belief, "ex-Christian" does not automatically mean "atheist"). There are intolerant, arrogant people on both sides, who try to convince others that their way is the only correct way. I guess I consider myself to be something like agnostic deist or ietsist...but I am never quite sure.
To me, it sounds like the woman was in an abusive marriage. Now she is escaping and starting over with someone else.
To me, it sounds like the woman was in an abusive marriage. Now she is escaping and starting over with someone else.
Typo: barmy.
Typo: barmy.
This is a very respectable cover of Winston Groovy's song.
This is a very respectable cover of Winston Groovy's song.
It's about when Madonna did a tour of Africa and she kept getting asked by poachers if she wanted elephant tusks.
It's about when Madonna did a tour of Africa and she kept getting asked by poachers if she wanted elephant tusks.
"Ivory Madonna"?
"Ivory Madonna"?
She always declined, so the poachers remained hungry.
She always declined, so the poachers remained hungry.
I just like how this song begins sounding like someone he’s just meeting: “I want to know about you.” …as if someone he’s meeting on a dance floor. But then the line, “cuz I still remember when you were afraid of the dark…” reveals it’s someone he actually knows very well. Then that can then lead to a different interpretation of what seemed like a simple song about someone he just met.
I just like how this song begins sounding like someone he’s just meeting: “I want to know about you.” …as if someone he’s meeting on a dance floor. But then the line, “cuz I still remember when you were afraid of the dark…” reveals it’s someone he actually knows very well. Then that can then lead to a different interpretation of what seemed like a simple song about someone he just met.
This is how I perceive the song through the lens of my experiences. When I heard this song again today it so clearly resembled my experience with a past abusive ex. There was a lot of lies, manipulation, and gaslighting - to the point of me feeling crazy. It's been years trying to put it all to rest, and have some closure.
This is how I perceive the song through the lens of my experiences. When I heard this song again today it so clearly resembled my experience with a past abusive ex. There was a lot of lies, manipulation, and gaslighting - to the point of me feeling crazy. It's been years trying to put it all to rest, and have some closure.
When he says "were my laces out?" - to me that feels how I've felt - like, was it my fault? Were my laces undone so I tripped? That's the self-doubt and self blame. I'm not saying I'm a perfect person, but I didn't ask to be treated the way I was, and I didn't deserve it - and I can finally say that now.
"Direct your eyes to the obvious proof" - It's really hard to find obvious proof with mental and emotional abuse. But the abuser will tell you how obvious the "truth" is, and how you're crazy or ridiculous or too sensitive or delusional. "Puppy dog lies won't sweeten the truth" - they try to sugar coat the ugly truth, but it's still ugly and destructive at its core. "I whisper and scream but I can't refute" - How many times I was internally screaming, how I would have to keep my mouth shut or watch what I say so as to not be painted as the villain - the Abuser speaks in absolutes - their version of things is "absolute".
"I bite my lip as you sharpen your tongue" - this whole section feels like denying the reality and maybe even a trauma bond, staying when you should leave. Your anxieties, their verbal abuse.
"I'm breaking through, through, through to you. I'm breaking..." - This part, you really want to believe you can fix a person or situation or relationship, you don't want to believe the truth, so you try to break through and connect, but you end up breaking yourself. It is a mind fuck to heal from the conditioning and destruction of psychological and emotional abuse - it worms its way into your mind and to unlearn that stuff is pretty difficult.
Just one possible meaning for this song and how it struck me, it's probably not the original intended meaning, but who knows, and that's the beauty in the mystery of lyrics! They can resonate on so many levels for so many people.
If you strip away the overtly romantic context, this is my ethos in life. If I can help those around me whom I love to ease their burdens and remember the beauty and joy of life, I will 💙💙.
If you strip away the overtly romantic context, this is my ethos in life. If I can help those around me whom I love to ease their burdens and remember the beauty and joy of life, I will 💙💙.
To become one with someone melded, sharing wounds, bleeding with them, inseparable.
To become one with someone melded, sharing wounds, bleeding with them, inseparable.