Another night slips away
In other words I should say
There are no words he should say
There are no words

In his eyes I see the fear
That only time could disappear
If only time could re-appear
Now's the time

Somethin' to take it away to take it away to take it
Don't let it stay don't let it stay don't let it

The butterflies are passive aggressive
And put their problems on the shelf but they're beautiful
He'll realize the only thing that's real
Are the kids that kid themselves
And the demise of the beautiful
What is beautiful?

The multi-life is better than
The one we're in the one we knew
Cause everyone is seein' through everyone

They're steppin' on
His gold terrain
He's movin' on with bold refrain
His blatantly old campaign
Is movin' on

Somethin' to take it away to take it away to take it
Don't let it stay don't let it stay don't let it

The butterflies are passive aggressive
And put their problems on the shelf but they're beautiful
He'll realize the only thing that's real
Are the kids that kid themselves
And the demise of the beautiful
What is beautiful?

What can't stay goes away

It starts stopping when it stops stopping


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    FYI.. passive aggressive means stubborn. "butterflies," which are usually symbols for innocence, as in the weezer song "butterfly," avoid their problems and never deal with them, but they're still beautiful even if they're not perfect. such as..children are beautiful in all their naivety. and the rest of the stanza goes on to say that beauty is always corrupted, even if we lie to ourselves.

    mmhmm. :)

    superkcon July 24, 2002   Link
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    This song really gets to me. Although the butterfly line has puzzled me for some time, I've been thinking and reading all of these quotes and I've tried to synthesize the entire chorus into a meaningful concept.

    Butterflies are fragile, soft, and innocent. Passive-aggressive to me has to do with taking a situation in which you should stand up for yourself, and instead avoiding conflict and complaining about the situation later. So the passive-aggressive butterflies are ignoring and avoiding their problems (putting them on the shelf, so to speak), but they're beautiful. Incidentally, in conflict, girls are often guilty of passive-aggression, which relates back to the gentle, soft, innocent connotations that butterflies carry as stereotypical perceptions of femininity. To deny your problems like this would probably be described as "kidding yourself"--nobody can deny that problems exist and need to be dealt with. If Ben is singing this song to some male character who sounds heartbroken, then I think the chorus is about someone breaking your heart because they let all the resentment and unpleasantness build up. But everyone he finds will be like that. Sociologists say that anything perceived as real will resultingly have real consequences (the Thomas dictum). The real consequences of kidding yourself must be "the demise of the beautiful." So, the end of the butterflies--their innocense, or maybe just their life. But then Ben asks "What is beautiful?" to remind us that there are more butterflies than we might initially see. I'm not sure that this made any sense.

    somethingrugbyon November 05, 2004   Link
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    I think this song is about coming out of depression.

    OrangeSteamboaton April 25, 2002   Link
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    i think, butterflies are passive aggressive because even they live only for a short time they don't seem like they're making it a big deal. they just show their beauty, flying happily... and for people mortallity is a huge problem and we spend our days worrying about death instead of seeing the beauty inside us. and to see the butterflies flying with their beautiful wings and not caring shortness of their lives, makes you feel sick.... this is the harm they give but it's not obvious. they're being passive aggresive in this way.

    justinethereseon March 19, 2005   Link
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    all i can say is that this song is beautiful. I heard it when he played in ATL. It's a great song..that one line "what is beautiful?" just makes you think about beauty and all the things we think are beautiful, and those things that we think arent, but really are.

    ShagadelicSaboton April 17, 2002   Link
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    this song is AMAZING...no other word to describe it...the lyrics are just so...great...hes an amazing kid.

    missthestopsignon April 17, 2002   Link
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    this song is so beautiful, anyone who's hooked up, just how much of a trip and a journey it all is, about all the things that you wish for, all the things that you trod through, all the things you come to learn, all the things you find that you love. and how when you find that you two have come to some end, your starting all over again. i absolutely love this song,

    behind0youreyeson May 20, 2002   Link
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    it is ok but Im think some one should produce it

    alicia204568on May 20, 2002   Link
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    this song is really really beautiful

    emogoddesson June 09, 2002   Link
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    I just downloaded this song and all I have to say is...wow. This song is amazing.

    MusicEqualsLifeon June 14, 2002   Link

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